Aa Boys

I have been told that this is true. I have been told that it is harder to place an AA boy baby, than an AA girl baby. Can't say I know for certain that older boys are/would be more difficult to place, but it wouldn't surprise me. It's not right, but I suspect it's true. But, looking at adoption in general, I suspect that there are more boys available of any race; and that girls are just easier to place...... I hope your wait is short and you find your child soon! Sincerely, Linny

We are adopting from the State of Wisconsin. We also asked for an AA boy between the ages of 8 & 12. We have been told by 3 Case Workers now that we will have MANY MANY referrals to choose from! We have been told it will be VERY quick!! I asked what would happen if we found a child on a photolisting. Our answer was we wouldn't need to even look there, there will be an abundance from our state! GOOD LUCK! Deb

Thanks guys for your responses. I'm hoping that that's the case here in Georgia.

My cousin, who works with kids, said that boys are harder to place; I think there is the thought that girls are easier to raise.

Millie, I had to laugh at what you said about girls being easier to raise! At the time we adopted our 1st child we had 2 teenage daughters & a pre-teen son. (One of the daughter's was actualy a Guardianship situation) I PRAYED we'd have another son! LOL I even told our SW if we had a chioce, I'd want a son, girls are too hard! Too moody, too sensitive, etc!!! LOL Well we got a daughter, then another daughter & FINALLY a son!!! LOL They are now 6,4 & 3. I STILL think boys are easier! LOL Deb

I suspect you will have a very short wait with many many choices. My timeline is in my signature, and our was a transracial adoption of two bi-racial girls. There are children of that age that will also state that they want to be adopted by a family of their own race, so that will be an option to you. Keep in mind, also, that not all children are listed on the photolisting sites. Those are normally the harder to place children, our daughters were never listed. Best wishes! Keep us updated! Diane

I've been approved since July, "officially" approved (had to get the supervisor to sign off on homestudy and she was on vacation)since middle of August and I have had NO prospects. I'm approved for 0-7, and open to any race, mild to moderate needs. There are very few boys listed on our state photolisting in that age range, and unless they are severely disabled, they get placed almost immediately. When i started this process, i thought it would go much more quickly. I'm considering opening up my age range, and possibly inquiring on a 13 yr old boy listed that i've had my eye on for over a year. If there is an abundance of boys under 8 in our system, no one is calling ME about them. :-/ Katherine, frustrated in MI

I just heard from a friend the other day that waiting families will be able to register on [url=http://www.mare.org]Welcome to the Michigan Adoption Resource Exchange![/url] so that caseworkers around the state will be able to consider you for their available children. You might want to check into that.

I know this may ramble a bit but perspective about boys are something I feel passionate about. I've always been of the opinion that personality and experiences has the most to do with which you prefer. I think boys would be much easier for me personality wise and I have a lot of interest in common with young boys ideas of play (action, and superheroes, and adventure) and i'm really excited about raising boys, but some women just dont have a clue about boys and are afried of raising them. I'm not going to be raising children too soon, I'm unmarried and rather young, but I'm planning to adopt boys because the parent of the oposite sex has the most impact on your life and there are so few moms that really understand raising boys. And I just want boys, I'll enjoy a girl too but with culture continueing to produce negative steriotypes about boys being "worse" somehow I've intentionallly looked at my self and said "You'd be an especiallly good mom to boys, so go for it. Give several boys a chance at a great childhood while having fun yourself"

I registered awhile back. Its pretty exciting, and i hope it will help connect me to a child! Katherine

Actually, I thought girls would be easier for me as I have no "father figure" nearby. My dad passed and my brother lives in Chicago; I'm in NY. However, after having 2 girls and 5 boys, I'd take boys any day.

CalandraLark,I just read your post last night and wanted to say that I TOTALLY agree with you. I have a 16 month old daughter myself but have always longed for a son for those exact reasons you listed. You managed to put into words exactly how I feel. I love my lil girl to bits but I do feel that it would come more natural to raise a lil boy.. for ME anyway. Anyway, we have just signed with an agency and are hoping to adopt a newborn baby boy in the near future. So Fingers crossed. And I hope you get your lil boy in the future too.

Janine, i was wondering if you were ever placed with a boy in that age range for adoption? I reread the post i made from months and months ago, when i thought i had been waiting awhile. Little did i know that i'd still be waiting months down the road. It will be 11 months for me on June 20th. I'm approved to adopt a boy 0-7 or girl 0-3, any race. Open to lots of special needs (mostly behavioral)....my worker knows i'd consider boys up to age 10 as well, and siblings depending on the situation. After almost a year and hundreds of child inquiries i have gotten nowhere. I never knew it would be this hard to adopt a "waiting" child. Hopefully i will get a placement soon. I also am becoming a licensed foster parent so maybe i will have luck doing that. Any updates from anyone else? Katherine

When I first signed up for my MAPP classes I was going to do straight adoption, but after talking to a foster parent who later adopted 5 kids she had been fostering in a little over a year...I decided to foster instead....I had a placement within 6 days..but that is ONLY because I turned down 2 placements and it was a holiday weekend and I am not on the weekend/emergency placement lisr. I actually got a call literally minutes after I found out I was licensed. My first fk was a 7 week old CC boy..he went home after 1 month exactly.. My second and current placements are 3 little boys that all came on the same day from 2 different families. My youngest fs will be reunified in about 3-4 months....My other 2 boys will be TPR'd in July, but that is only if parents don't sign surrenders first..Mom is set to sign THIS FRIDAY....we still don't know if dad will or not... The best part is ..I have only had them a little over 2 months and their adoption should be complete by Sept/October....and I have ONLY been licensed since Feb. There is ABSOLUTELY no way I would have gotten kids THAT YOUNG ( Ages 13 months and 29 months at placement) & THAT FAST if I had not fostered first....GRANTED I did get VERY lucky by being placed with kids that were only a couple months away from TPR....but this whole process since I have been licensed will only take 5-6 months total and I have had the kids the whole time unlike if I had went with only straight adoption..I would have still been waiting to be matched with no kids in my home....

Janine, I really like reading your posts. You sound like so much fun . . . no WONDER they keep placing kids with you. You sound like an eternal optimist. Hope things keep going strong in your life and your little girl(s) come soon.