Hi I am a Birthmom With Questions?

here is the link from adoption.com ,I do believe you are in california ...Hope this helps. [url=http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/california-adoption-laws.html]California Adoption Laws -[/url]

9 Alabama, California, Indiana, Maine, and Wisconsin specify a dollar amount in statute for some specific services [url=http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/expenses.cfm]Statutes-at-a-Glance: State Regulation of Adoption Expenses[/url]You need to research what the limit is set by California law.

Do you know any Board that I could get some help please, I am desperate to know these questions to my answers and I am sure you do not have time to help me. I just needed some help. Bye

Yes. It's called your local state assistance office. They will get you signed up for medicaid and any other financial assistance that you are eligible for.

Thanks that was lot of help...live on the streets until then...THANKS

Yes. It's called your local state assistance office. They will get you signed up for medicaid and any other financial assistance that you are eligible for. Please don't waste your time, being mean to me no more.

Uhm, I wasn't being mean. I was telling you where to go.

I have Medical and all and Food stamps they don't help with rent and the question I was asking was, How much can I ask my Amom for and it be legal....Is that so hard for any one to answer for me. I was really thinking this board might be of help to me its not.....so far....:confused:

Actually, public assistance CAN help you with rent. If you didn't have to pay rent before, you can go back in and apply for rent assistance. As far as what you can ask the potential adoptive family for:Birth Parent Expenses Allowed Statute: Fam. Code ǧ 8610; 8812 [LIST][*]Services related to adoption.[*]Medical or hospital care for birth mother or child.[*]Attorney's fees.[*]Counseling fees .[*]Living expenses.[*]Birth parent must request in writing any payment for expenses.[/LIST]Birth Parent Expenses Not Allowed Statute: Penal Code 273(d) [LIST][*]It is unlawful for the birth mother to receive payments that exceed reasonable maternity-related and living expenses.[/LIST]Allowable Payments for Arranging Adoption Statute: Penal Code ǧ 273(a) [LIST][*]It is unlawful for any person or agency to receive payment for the placement or consent to an adoption of a child.[/LIST]Allowable Payments for Relinquishing Child Statute: Penal Code 273 [LIST][*]A mother may not receive payment for expenses:[LIST][*]If it is contingent on giving consent;[*]There is intent not to consent or complete adoption; She receives payment from more than one adoptive family.[/LIST][/LIST]Allowable Fees Charged by Department/Agency Statute: Fam. Code ǧ 8810 [LIST][*]The department or adoption agency shall charge $1,250 for filing a petition for adoption; $325 for a post-placement evaluation.[*]A fee may be deferred, reduced, or waived for economic hardship.[/LIST]Accounting of Expenses Required by Court Statute: Fam. Code ǧ 8610; 8812 [LIST][*]A full accounting report shall be filed with the court, itemized in detail, including receipts from the birth parent for any expenses paid.[/LIST]That's all the information we have. You'll have to speak with an attorney for further information. Asking for more than your rent, since your medical bills are already covered by medicaid, under CA law, would not be permitted. You're also going to have to write a letter to their lawyer dictating the amounts needed.

Birthmomwithquestion -

There is no reason to be snide. You've been given an abundance of resources to check out and if you choose not to look them up or not like the answers you are given, that's fine. But no need to bite the helping hand.

Please be respectful, thanks!

I am sorry I asked for help and Have not got any help needed so I am sorry,

I dont feel you should rely on the adoptive family for assistance. I've never been faced with homelessness, but taking aid from an adoptive couple to me is like selling a child to them and also coercion because then you may feel obligated to place your child with them. If there is a homeless shelter and I were in your place I would go there instead (though I'm not in your place, so you've got to decide what's right for you)

If you live in a small town, go to the town social worker (should be at the town hall).If you live in a larger town, go to the nearest WIC or welfare office. If you are already on foodstamps, I am assuming you have a caseworker. Call the caseworker and let them know you are having difficulties meeting the rent and see what they can do for help.If you belong to a church, go to your church pastor and ask them if they can assist you... or give you resources. If you don't belong to a church, many large churches have support networks in place to help people in distress.There are free medical clinics in larger cities and towns as well that can help w/the medical part.Good luck to you. You have to be resourceful, YOURSELF, and not expect everyone is going to hand things to you in this life. Jenna and the other posters have given you great info. I've just given you a ton of social network info that you could use.Worst comes to worst, go to a local hospital and ask them to help you find a social service agency that provides housing for expectant women. There are some "shelters" for expectant women (I volunteer at one, right now, for women who have been abused and are drug addicted, and who have kids or are expecting) that are apartments and you would not have to share.Expecting an adoptive parent to pay for your housing is not very realistic. You have to pay for housing after the birth too,,, don't forget. So setting yourself up right now for the post-birth is really key. Good luck. I know this is hard. However, in this life, you have to work for the things you want and need. No one should be handing them to you .

Birthmomwithquestion was actually the serial scammer Janet Posey posing as a potential birthmom.

No wonder she was so RUDE!!!