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Here I am in the midst of adopting a baby girl from Guatemala and getting ready for the Holidays and what do I do in my spare time? I research information on my next adoption! I'm 46 years old and my husband is 45. We have 3 grown sons and are therefore, starting all over again yet I feel like things in my house just won't be right until all the bedrooms all full again (we have 5 bedrooms). In comparison to what others have gone through adopting from Guatemala, ours has been pretty easy overall, but we did hit a delay on December 11th when PGN (that's basically like our Attorney General's office) kicked us out because of a "problem" on our baby's birth certificate. We were resubmitted on December 18th, but are looking at up to another 8 weeks before we get out of PGN for good and then possibly 2-3 more months before we can go pick her up. This is assuming they don't find another "problem" in the meantime. You would think that this delay would be enough for me to not want to rush into another adoption so soon, but instead it seems to have had the complete opposite effect and I've spent the last week researching adoption from Colombia. Not only that, but I'm becoming more and more comfortable with the idea of adopting siblings. Have I gone absolutely crazy? :arrow:
Happy Holidays to all my over 40 adoption friends!
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Naw....Debbie (((HUGS))).....you're just doing what your heart tells you to do, that's all.
Dh and I were in our 40's when we went back to infant adoption (domestic this time though, not international). Our two (infant) adoptions were already grown and on their own when we decided to do this, so I know what you mean.
Our third baby came when we were each 44, the fourth baby came when we were 46, and our youngest baby came last year-----and we're now FIFTY!
I understand the checking everything out, even as you prepare for your little one to finally come sometime soon. I think it makes us feel as though we're 'doing something'!!!!! And really, that's okay. I've always said that even if I didn't go a specific route in adoption---or if I didn't use a certain agency after speaking with them....or just reading about adoption.....I STILL learned something I probably didn't know before.
How can that kind of knowledge hurt anyone, KWIM?
You're just 'doin' what comes naturally', I think.
Stay strong while waiting...and keep going until you feel in your heart that you're done. There's no crime in that! And, FWIW.......an adoption attorney told me---not so long ago----that they'd never had a birthmother ever ask the ages of the couples who's profiles they were viewing.
--Got nothing to do with your age...and everything to do with what you feel you should be doing---bringing home children to love! :)
Sincerely,
Linny
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I am doing exactly the same thing you are. We are in the waitin stage for an adoption for Vietnam. It has been six months since we submitted our dossier. But I am also investigating our second adoption. I just don't want to raise on "only child".
Our grown children are 26, 22, 20 and 17. I am 43 and my husband is 55.
We have been looking into AA/BR for our second adoption. But then I think should we adopt another Asian child so that they could have their culture in common.
Call us crazy but we are excited about this next "stage" in parenting - everyone else does.
But it is nice to know that we aren't the only ones.
Sara
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So glad to know that it's not just me. I know some people think I'm crazy, but having the opportunity to experience motherhood all over again in my 40's is exciting. Therefore, my research continues and I've put our social worker on notice that we plan to begin the process again as soon as we can. They have a mandatory six month wait between adoptions, which is just fine with me. I want to make sure that Liliana is attaching and bonding well before we bring any more children into our home, but I look at all the empty bedrooms in our 5 bedroom home and can't wait to have them full again.
So, unless things change dramatically with Guatemala, we will most likely be moving forward with a sibling adoption from Colombia in the future.
In the meantime, I head out bright and early Sunday morning to go visit our baby girl again. She is 8 months old now and I'm so excited to see how much she's grown and changed over the last 3 months. It will be hard leaving her again, but I will treasure every second I'm able to spend with her.
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