Request: 2 cents of OA advice!

Hi all....I'm finding myself at a serious loss of words, which if you "know" me is pretty rare. So here's the thing: I had my first visit with DD when she was eleven months old. I met her Mom, we exchanged email addresses and phone numbers, she gave me a beautiful bouquet of roses - all in all I think it went really well. Since then we've exchanged emails with some regularity. Not weekly or daily or anything over board, just once in a while. I also got some pictures in the beginning of January. So far nothing's been by a "schedule" just when it happens (which is great because it's casual and which drives me crazy because I have no plan or direction!) I LOVE everything I've been given so far and am very grateful that I've been a part of thier lives, so please don't misunderstand. BUT - and here's the really hard part for me - I would LOVE another visit. It's only been about three months, and I'm not saying I need it soon, I just wish I knew what DD's Mom's expectations were...so far everything has been me following her lead. I've sent emails to her on my own before, around Christmas, A's birthday, etc. but I've never done anything nearly as bold as ask for a visit. I don't know how to do it! I sit at this stupid email in progress and write and rewrite the sentences over and over. Would you be pleased if your child's firstmom asked for visits? Bothered? Worried she was trying to intrude? I don't want to do anything that would negatively affect our relationship, I guess I just want to feel like I have some ownership of the OA and am not just a passive participant waiting to hear the word "Jump" so I can ask "How high????" Thank you!!!