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[FONT="Arial Black"]Hello, im 17 and just gave birth to my little girl jayde just over a week ago, i found out i was pregnant at 35 weeks and my first decision was adoption.1, because i really wasnt ready, 2, im so young and 3, the fact that ive never wanted kids. but things do change when you have one.,
after i left the hospital, i still hadnt seen my baby and couldnt handle it anymore so i met with her foster parent the other day. i saw and held my girl for the first time.
even before this, id been having second thoughts about the adoption and i really dont know wat to do. i want the best for her but im not sure what that is.
i mean. i live at home with my parents, and were quite broke atm. they are supportive of my decision, whatever it may be though. another thing is. there is no father in the picture, can anyone help me?
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That's the best news I've heard all week! I'm glad that you took your time and put your heart into your decision. Families belong together -- and I'm so glad you decided to keep your family intact. Best wishes to you and your baby, and congratulations to your baby's grandparents, too! The next best thing to being a mom is being a grandma -- so happy for you and your family! :grouphug:
Peace,
Susan
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I was 27 when I decided to put my child up for adoption... I became pregnant from a guy I was dating... and he didn't want anything to do with me or the baby. This is hard in itself on a woman.. not to mention all the other stuff...
If I were you I would do some soul searching... and really think about what is best for the child... you have many options.. and you are right you are very young.. but that does not mean that you wouldn't be a good mother either. In my mind I collected all of the pro's and con's of giving my child up for adoption... and stepped away from my ego.. and also tried to put myself in the childs position.
Is this they way I would want to grow up?
Would I want a mother and a father to come home to?
Can I provide for my child the way my family provided for me?
Am I able to handle taking on that respondsibility myself?
Will I get support from my family??
How will I finish my career... to provide for child?
It is a lot about what you have and don't have... and what is best for the child after you weed through all of that stuff.
Did I make a good decision??
It has been over a year and a half... I have an open adoption, and I am able to see that my decision was the best decision I have ever made in my life. He is happy, he has a mom and a dad who loves him soooo much. He has a house to call home, a brother, and pets. What more could I ask for.
Hope this helps... and take care! The only person who can help you is you... you have to be able to live with your decision what ever it may be.... and if you need any help along the way... or questions - just ask!
Congratulations on the birth of your baby girl!! My only suggestion is -- You are going to get many different opinions here. I think you should find a really good adoption/parenting counselor. A good counselor will not try to push you towards adoption, but will let you explore your options and support the decision that you make no matter what that decision is. They can also provide resources if you choose to parent. Good luck to you and your beautiful baby!
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