Annoying vacation

Just smile and say thanks and then ignore it. I wouldn't even bother to try and justify it to someone who is talking to you like you haven't thought this through. Is she an unhappy parent? Or not as happy as she might be? Maybe she is trying to live vicariously through you or keep you from repeating what she sees as her mistakes. Regardless, it is your life and your decision and assuming you have thought it through, ignore her!I was older when I adopted my son but wish I had been ready sooner. I am loving being a mom! Go for it!

I was 30 and single when I started proceeding toward adoption. I got the same things -- "enjoy your life, travel, date, enjoy your freedom". My father even said "If you want something to love, get a puppy!"My response -- "I have enjoyed 30 years of freedom alone, and now I want to share my wonderful life with a child." So, I got a puppy AND a child and then ANOTHER puppy and another child. Later on, I got a third puppy and a third child. Now my family gets nervous when they see me looking at puppies!

I am 28 and divorced. The main annoying comments I have gotten are from my mom -- "You should wait and try to find a good man first," or "Don't you want a baby so you'll feel like it's yours" (I'm planning to adopt an older child). If you find yourself feeling defensive, just think of all the reasons you have decided to adopt.

Thanks for the encouragement. The person is older (my parent's age) and has adult children. Our values overall are just very different. I was just so surprised that it caught me off guard. I really thought a lot about adoption prior to beginning the process, I know that it is the right time and that being a parent will have many joys and trials that I want to experience.

Everyone in my life thought I was nuts for wanting to adopt as a single person. I was thirty when I brought my son home. He is now four years old. A year after my son was born I got the call for his newborn sister and I had to tell the person on the phone if I would take her or not. I did not even have time to ask anyone's opinion. Thank goodness because my family would have talked me out of it. So I said yes and my daughter came the next day. I must admit I was freaked out because I was not expecting it and I was the single mom to two babies overnight! LOL! Now my kids and three and four years old and I love them so much. It is hard but it's so worth it. I would never have done it any other way. The family eventually comes around and everyone loves my kids but It was very sad going through the process because everyone doubted what I was doing the whole time. Hang in there!

My mother told me I was "Wasting" my "youth" by doing foster care (again) right now. She was a single mom to three kids when I was growing up, and here I am a single mom to three kids (Or I was when she said this a couple months ago.)She was concerned that I wouldn't find a man that would date me because I had three kids BUT because they were also all different colors/races. Unfortunately my mom believes you have to have a man in order to be happy.I've told her if I die single that's fine with me and eventually she lays off (but she sure is happy when she hears I'm dating.)I simply tell people that I'm not willing to put my life on hold or to NOT help out a child that needs me because I haven't met Mr. Right. Mr. Right will love me because of who I am AND because of my parenting choices. End of discussion.