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Hello everyone first off I would like to give you a little background info on my situation my husband and I are in the process of adopting our son, he has been in our care since birth. We met the bio mother through a friend when she was 7 months pregnant, she was unable to keep him because she has 4 felony charges against her for child abuse and neglect. I am not 100% on what all happened but I do know her other child had a broken arm, collar bone and some damage done to her esophagus before she was a year old. The child was removed from her care and later adopted out. I of course have been in contact with her throughout the adoption process, in the begining I agreed to letters and pictures and I am still open to that, however she calls constantly sometimes 3-4 times a week. She is also very unstable currently on house arrest but with a curfew she was a meth addict although now she is clean. Our adoption is not completely done yet but the surrendering of her rights have been completed. I do not want to be mean to her because she has truly given me a wonderful gift in my son. I would appreciate any advice on how to handle this, I never ever agreed to phone calls and techincally this is a closed adoption due to her history no judge would allow us to even care for him if he thought she would be allowed to see him. My son is only 7 months old and she calls wanting to talk to him. I am at my wits end here and it makes it very hard to bond completely with my son when she is calling me contunously. Has anyone ever experienced this or has any advice thanks in advance and God Bless!
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Firstly Congrats on your soon finalized adoption.
My advice to you is to set your boundries with Bmom. Let her know that you are not judging her but that the adoption is in fact a closed one, I think that maybe you should have your attorny draw up paperwork with the terms of contact, that you only agree to updates and photos, but that no phone contact, will be accepted and that your number will be changed.
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Hello everyone first off I would like to give you a little background info on my situation my husband and I are in the process of adopting our son, he has been in our care since birth. We met the bio mother through a friend when she was 7 months pregnant, she was unable to keep him because she has 4 felony charges against her for child abuse and neglect. I am not 100% on what all happened but I do know her other child had a broken arm, collar bone and some damage done to her esophagus before she was a year old. The child was removed from her care and later adopted out. I of course have been in contact with her throughout the adoption process, in the begining I agreed to letters and pictures and I am still open to that, however she calls constantly sometimes 3-4 times a week. She is also very unstable currently on house arrest but with a curfew she was a meth addict although now she is clean. Our adoption is not completely done yet but the surrendering of her rights have been completed. I do not want to be mean to her because she has truly given me a wonderful gift in my son. I would appreciate any advice on how to handle this, I never ever agreed to phone calls and techincally this is a closed adoption due to her history no judge would allow us to even care for him if he thought she would be allowed to see him. My son is only 7 months old and she calls wanting to talk to him. I am at my wits end here and it makes it very hard to bond completely with my son when she is calling me contunously. Has anyone ever experienced this or has any advice thanks in advance and God Bless!