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Why is it in the media if they talk about a person who adopted kids they ALWAYS make a point to call that child the adopted son or daughter?? It's like so and so died and they leave behind 2 sons and 1 adoptive daughter. Why not just say daughter?? I swear I was listening to the radio this morning and they were talking about Lionel Richie walking his "adoptive" daughter Nicole down the aisle. Why not just his daughter period?? I notice this happens with everyone no matter if they are famous or just everyday people. I see it in the news and read it in the magazine etc... and it really annoys the heck out of me.Does anyone know why they do that? What's the point?
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During my lunch, I hopped on to people.com and there was a picture of Cher and Chas(z). Anyway, they felt no need to explain that Chas used to be Chasity (sp), and rightfully so, but somehow need to clarify if someone is adopted. Seriously, if Nichole Richey was standing next to her dad it would say Lionel and his adopted daughter Nichole, but no footnote for Chas.
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I just had a thought, when a woman who placed a child for adoption passes is that written in the obit? Does it read, survived by her children John, Jane and Bobby who was placed for adoption at birth. That would be just as awkward. As far as celebrities I remember Roseanne Barr placed a daughter and they reunited years later. I know she's not in the forefront much anymore but when she's pictured with her kids do they mention the daughter?
SHD
I just had a thought, when a woman who placed a child for adoption passes is that written in the obit? Does it read, survived by her children John, Jane and Bobby who was placed for adoption at birth. That would be just as awkward. As far as celebrities I remember Roseanne Barr placed a daughter and they reunited years later. I know she's not in the forefront much anymore but when she's pictured with her kids do they mention the daughter?
I think some are missing the point. It's not that adoptive parents are ashamed of the fact that their children are adopted, or that they are hiding it. It's why distinguish them as "adopted" when their biological children don't have that qualifier? Like, no one would say, "Kelly is pictured with her biological daughters and adopted son." if I was famous. No one uses "biological" as a descriptor in these situations. Yes, I have it listed here in my siggy how my children came into my family, but it's relevant to the discussions on a.com. If someone captioning a picture of my family, it's not relevant.
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RavenSong
The last time I saw a family picture of Roseanne Barr with her kids, it didn't differentiate between the siblings with any qualifiers.
Supra, His daughter who was adopted out or he has 8 children including his daughter who was placed for adoption... That story got me simply because she had a poster of Rod on her wall as a teenager - imagine finding out you had a crush on...your father... It was almost as bad as the twins who married each other and found out later they were twins... D
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SupaModel
Good point but now you have me thinking. Do they say that when people have placed their children for adoption? i.e. Rosanne and the daugther she gave up for adoption?? I know the tabloids had outed her before and that was an issue. Now i'm wondering. Has anyone ever seen this happen?
Dickons
Supra, His daughter who was adopted out or he has 8 children including his daughter who was placed for adoption... That story got me simply because she had a poster of Rod on her wall as a teenager - imagine finding out you had a crush on...your father... It was almost as bad as the twins who married each other and found out later they were twins... D
Crcik, I kid you not - twins married - when they met they felt an attraction to each other and were so similar...really? Twin studies on others separated are very similiar despite different environments. They knew they were adopted but I highly doubt they knew they were a twin - amended birth certificates showing single birth. It was in the UK...back when they separated twins - you know - blank slates and all. I would never make it public if I had found out I married a sibling or cousin so consider that as a reason why others don't come forward if they ever found out. Geographically it is possible if your mother did not travel out of state. One of the many reasons I married my first husband - he lived in different country so my odds were better. [URL="http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=hPT174-VfzQ"]YouTube - Twins separated at birth marry each other[/URL] Kind regards,Dickons
I have written out that part of my own obituary and I have instructed everyone that i wish my own 2 be used i do not want my kids to be referred to as anything buy my children nor do I want any mention of the fact that i have adopted in my obituary i dont see the revelance or importance of it..I dont @ this point say that my kids are adopted @ all although my children know they are adopted.
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I have written out that part of my own obituary and I have instructed everyone that i wish my own 2 be used i do not want my kids to be referred to as anything buy my children nor do I want any mention of the fact that i have adopted in my obituary i dont see the revelance or importance of it..I dont @ this point say that my kids are adopted @ all although my children know they are adopted.
crick
Uhm. ick. Sorry..I must have been buried in the sand because I don't remember the twin story. Really? Not that I doubt you...I'm just "REALLY??" *shudders* This is one reason why people need to tell their kids they are adopted. geez.