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I have been a foster parent for 8 years during that time I have 4 placements all have resulted in reunifications. Currently with my last placement after 2.5 yrs it has been determined to reunify....or should I unify (I have had the little girl since birth) with the parent. Understand I am very "Ok" with the unifying the parent and the child. I email out weekly reports on little T's emotional and physical well being I have done this since the beginning. But for the last month I have been seeing bruises on little T when she is returning from her visits with bio mom. I note this in my emails. Yesterday the CW came over because we have a court reivew next week. (He has been on the case since 1/1/11 never met him before yesterday). He had the nerve to say that my documentation was nit picking the bio mom. I was and am livid. If I was aquisitory or something that would be different I just documented facts. With the foster care reform they way it is here in Nebraska the poor Case managers and the GALs who are failing our kids I have had enough. When little T is turned back over to her bio mom I quit foster care. It is a loosing battle and I can't bare to see more children damaged by the state.
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OMG Wow, what a crazy ride for you indeed. I am so glad to hear it finally turned out in your favor. I was reading your story, and I was so heartbroken by it. This good news is relief to hear! How long did it take for TPR? Am wondering what state you live in, sounds like it took 8 years, am i right??
Thanks, and Good luck for more good news in the future.
fostermommaof3
We went to court on May 31st for TPR on the bio mom. The Judge granted the TPR late last week. Next hearing has been set for August 1st for an adoption review hearing. It's looking like both T & B will be able to remain with us and will be able to finally share our last name. Most importantly we all will be able to grow as a family with no more roller coaster rides with the judicial system. Still holding my breath and waiting for the next court date.
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Atleast since she disappeared the workers can't bully her anymore.Hopefully you'll get adopt,the the county doesn't change their tune.I don't have any trust for the system where u live.I hope after the adoption,the mom will come around and maybe she could get pics or communicate.The workers should be ashamed of their selves.
It has been almost 4 yrs for T I brought her home at birth and she spent a total of 75 days out of 4 yrs with her bio mom. It has been a long road and I am very hesitant to do any celebrating because I never know what will have with the courts. But, last year we got a different CW that's why the change of heart with the case workers. Our old one who was covering for the bio mom was at the TPR hearing and when he was on the stand he made himself look very bad, no dates were correct and had both T & B's information all messed up. I hold no hard feelings towards the bio mom she just was not meant to be a mommy and she knew it. When she tried I supported her emotionally but when she disappeared I couldn't do anything for her....Now it's all about MY kids...well soon to be mine legally any ways.
BoysParent, I hope that if your boys do come back into the system, they come to you. To a familiar place, to someone that loves them.FosterMommaof3, I hope that there are no more twists and turns. That these children are granted the legal status to be with you, and you to be their legal parent. I will rejoice when I read that news here.
Oh, your story made me so happy. That first msg from you was so heartbreaking... I just wanted to comment right away and say hold on keep fighting! I kept reading and see that you did just that and I strongly believe that is why they are with you today. They are healthy and happy because of YOU. I can't wait to read your next big update! :cheer:
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:::smiling::: Adoption packet is being completed, right now the only thing we are waiting for is a subsidy approval because both T & B are at high risk due to being exposed to meth during invitro. Once this is approved the packet will go to my attorney for me to sign an adoption petition....and then the final adoption date will finally be set. I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel, and although this has been a long and drawn out wait, my "kids" don't even know it and they are both waiting for the adoption party. They don't know what adoption is but the both definately know what a party is. GOD Bless to all of you........never give up the fight for a child. They don't always have a voice and it's up to us to make sure they are heard by whatever means we have available.
Just a quick note I wish it were a true update but as of today we are still need a letter from B's dr. stating the high risk from being exposed to Meth. But as anyone who has read my past posts...I maybe knocked down by the system but I always stand back up and fight for what's needed for MY (almost anyways) children. Have an appointment for a new pediatrician and hopely she will write a letter for B. Will update if there is any new news.
Well, here is the update I have been praying I could post for some time now. Adoption date has been set!! It's on National Adoption Day November 17th. Even though it's (only) 30 days away I am getting all the plans confirmed so at least that day on my crazy ride I can just hang on and enjoy the day with my boys. There is so much I have learned and I will post it one day here so maybe just maybe somebody can learn from it and hopefully answer some questions they may not even realized they had. God Bless you all!
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i so understand we have a 9mo old we have had since she was 3wks her father is in jail, mom has nothing to do with her but now dads mom wants her but had nothing to do with her up until 8 vivsits ago..the baby doesnt even know her, what i say is foster parents stand up, fight for your foster kids, her best interest is with us, this grandmother was letting the babies dad (who is a sex offender/ indecent behavior with juviniles)stay with her and her 2 other grandkids (under age teenage girls) prior to going to jail and they think she is a good placement for the baby? No! No! No! we sent emails of our story to congrassman, senators, judges ect. and we were heard, a senator contacted childwelfare, who contacted child protected services, and are investingating all this. this baby was about to fall thru the cracks of the system and we had to be her voice, she had many unsupervised visits with both parents which was not suppose to happen,, ALL FOSTER PARENTS IF YOU THINK SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT, REACH OUT TO PEOPLE WHO ARE ABOVE THE SYSTEM, YOU WILL BE HEARD!
AS of 11:45pm on 11/17/12 WE became a legal family! It's all done!! I am going to keep my foster parent license current for awhile but have requested no additional children at this point. I have also volunteered to be open to helping other foster parents with my organization. Once my license is out dated I am thinking about being a volunter for CASA. Now I can say it here and everywhere.....My foster children who I hid their identity online as a girl and a boy are actually two little boys 4 & 2. My Son's and in time when I feel comfortable about it I will post our family photo. Please everyone stay strong and always fight for the rights of the children. Try to remember it's all about their needs and not our wants. God Bless you all and this mommy is going to go raise her boys.:wings: :wings:
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