To Cynic

Originally Posted By BonnieI hope I can answer all of the questions you have posed to me. If I miss any, forgive me.As for the copy of our birthmother's medical records, they were part of legal court documents when we were going through that ordeal. I would have NEVER requested them, but they were delivered to my home as part of a package of legal papers. Her attorney had the records reviewed by 2 independent OB/GYNs and our attorney had it reviewed as well. All were conclusive that there were no drugs in her system at all.I know it s difficult for anyone to believe that a mom would not want their child, but ours did not. The birthfather is unknown, basically. I mean, he gave her a name during their one night adventure, but we don't know if it was real or bogus. He was searched for by many people and never found.I hope you realize that you and I agree on many points, Cynic. First and most important is that whenever possible, a child should stay with at least one of its parents. If the parent chooses adoption, for whatever the reason, it is incredibly important that there be some type of contact continuously throughout the child's life. It's important for everyone involved.I think where we differ on opinions is about children waiting to be adopted. I agree that all need homes, but I just don't think you can convince me that it won't add even more stress on a child to be placed in a family where he/she is completely different racially. Special needs is another story, and as I have said, my son is special needs.I want to thank you Cynic, for keeping this discussion on adoption and posing great questions and giving answers with being rude, etc. There has been too much of that in the past and this is a whole lot better.