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we have not gotten a call in almost a year. Can i call and put my name on a list for other countys? Who do i call. ?
How wide is your range? I'm not in Jersey; I'm in New York. When I started, we couldn't go to other counties. But I think if your range is large, you'd get calls.
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I haven't gotten a call in 15 months. I asked the same question in a thread a few weeks ago. I am going to email someone at FAFS to see if we can get our names on other counties' lists.
I have counties that border mine that have large numbers of placements, but mine doesn't and I am sitting empty. Its so frustrating when you want to help a kid, but can't because you live in the wrong county. I understand that they like to keep kids in their communities, though.
Anyone get any calls lately?
Aruba- did you find out if we can put our names on other counties' lists?
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No calls for me either!!! It was SUCH a big decision for me to open back up as a foster home and now...nothing! Right now, the empty crib is holding all my son's stuffed animals. That is where they sleep.
So, I worked up enough nerve to call my RW on Monday to ask her if there was a problem because I haven't gotten a call in over 16 months. She said no, that DYFS is placing kids mostly with relatives, but asked the ages I could take (3 and under) and that she would talk to the placement facilitator.
I got a call back from her 2 mintues later. There were siblings (2 and 3.5) that may need placement the next day. Turns out I know who they are and that my son and the older boy are friends. So of course I said yes.
They came to us last night!!!
YAY! Congrats! Let us know how it's going! I'm glad you called your CW. I really think it's "out of sight, out of mind" with some of these offices. I always picture all of our info being in the computer and a placement worker entering every single detail about the kids and the computer generating a "match" or at least listing names of open foster homes but in reality, I think they have kids come into the system and there's a conversation around the water cooler (or walking to the restroom) consisting of "that nice family from whatever town just had 2 kids RU, why don't you call them?" or "so-and-so called Monday saying she was open so why don't you call her?"
I think if you're on their minds, you get a call.....or if you're on vacation, having surgery, having out-of-town guests, renovating a kitchen etc :)
Congrats! I agree that it is a good idea to call them on a regular basis. When I called the week after Christmas, they called the day before New Years eve, but I had to say no bc I already had plans for ny eve. I called again Wed and that aftrnoon they called back w an adoption match! I would say be persistent & hang in there.
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So, it's wise to call just to "check in" once in a while? My husband and I were licensed in December and we're so anxious. We had 2 placements fall through this week and both would have been our first. We were thrilled with the thought of our first placement and then came the "thanks, but no thanks"...it's so discouraging!
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YAY! Congrats! Let us know how it's going! I'm glad you called your CW. I really think it's "out of sight, out of mind" with some of these offices. I always picture all of our info being in the computer and a placement worker entering every single detail about the kids and the computer generating a "match" or at least listing names of open foster homes but in reality, I think they have kids come into the system and there's a conversation around the water cooler (or walking to the restroom) consisting of "that nice family from whatever town just had 2 kids RU, why don't you call them?" or "so-and-so called Monday saying she was open so why don't you call her?"
I think if you're on their minds, you get a call.....or if you're on vacation, having surgery, having out-of-town guests, renovating a kitchen etc :)
We are doing okay! The older boys (my son and FS) are getting along well. Younger FS and my son are having some issues, but I am addressing those. The new boys are adjusting well. I am having some "post-placment blues" because of the added stress and workload (and sleep deprivation) in my home. I know that as time passes, this will improve (well, not the workload, but hopefully the stress related to the adjustment). I'm going to hire a cleaning lady and hopefully a mother's helper for 2 evenings a week.