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Hi all,
So excited:cheer: brought home a 4 day old safe haven baby girl last night.... Can't hardly stand it & just had to share. She is too stinkin' cute...hope the next 30 days fly by.....
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Thank you all-I really never thought it could or would happen! She is just amazing-sleeps 4+ hours at a clip during the night-happy happy baby. My FS is totally taken with her & wants to "help"-gets me the bottle, blanket etc. I am trying very hard to include him in everything as he was my one & only for over 20 months-don't want him to feel slighted..thanks again
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There isn't a specific list for safe haven babies that I know of. They are relatively rare, though this past year there seems to have been more than there usually are. I don't know if you are just interested in fostering or adopting but you can specify to your worker that you want to just foster or just adopt (or both), and specify the ages that you are interested in. You should be placed on an adoption list, though I have no idea how this list works. We received our safe haven baby after previously fostering and adopting our first child. We changed our status to adoption only after our first child because we didn't want her to be negatively affected by foster children coming in and out of her life. Hope this help...
Thanks. We are on the adoption only list in Trenton and also through the are local dyfs office asFoster to adopt. We have two boys 6 & 7 and I feel the same way you do about permanency. I have gotten a fewCalls but it is not what we have specified. I'm sure the call will come :) was your "call" through your local dyfs office or Trenton?
Our call came from Trenton-this baby wasn't in our county. I am not sure what the typical protocol is-but what we were told is they do a system search based on what info they have for the baby, print out the home studies, review them individually then as a group to "score" them in order to make a decision. We where one of five families being considered. Also when they call you have to give an answer right then-either you are or aren't interested so the adoption unit can move on in the process.. GL :-). Also I used to call Trenton adoption unit every 5-6 months to make sure they had us in the system etc...
Our call came from Trenton-this baby wasn't in our county. I am not sure what the typical protocol is-but what we were told is they do a system search based on what info they have for the baby, print out the home studies, review them individually then as a group to " score" them in order to make a decision. We where one of five families being considered. Also when they call you have to give an answer right then-either you are or aren't interested so the adoption unit an move on in the process.. GL :-). Also I used to call Trenton eye 5-6 months to ake sure they had us in the system etc...
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It's hard to estimate the time it will take. From the time we started fostering our first daughter to the time we were able to officially adopt her was 15 months (which is supposed to be very fast for foster-adopt though it didn't feel like it). Then we received our safe haven baby 8 months later. Before receiving her, we had also received a call saying we were one of a few families being considered for another safe haven baby. Because babies are so easy to place, they can take more things into consideration, like whether or not you can take time off from your job to bond with the new baby. I would say definitely keep in contact with your worker every couple of months.
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Thanks GODOT15... We have been fostering for a year now and have been on the list for 3/4 of that time. I just spoke to adoption operations last week and they said the list is VERY long for infants/safe haven. I asked her if people wait for five years plus...and the answer was yes! I am a stay at home mom...so I am hoping that helps... It sounds like you were very fortunate in your experience. I am so hoping we will be too! In the meantime we will just try to be patient!!
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