Arranging Openess After Sib Group Adoption

Originally Posted By JenI am a foster parent to a sibling group and it has been requested by their father that we adopt. He is very open and willing to work out any thing to make sure his kids can find him when they are older. Their mother is the one who is going to have the kids taken unfortunately. There are two older siblings that the older of our two remembers but there is no attachment. The twist too all of this is that I too was adopted. As an adult adoptee, possibly adopting two foster children with two other siblings, my advice is this:Don't push it. You have more information than the average adoptee would. When the kids are about 8-10, they will ask superficial questions. And by then, she may be more willing to share information and contact. Again during the adolescent stage the questions will arise. If she still hasnt opened up, you still have her name and most likely her SS#. you can always find her with that. You need to think of the kids and their ability to gain information when they are older. She will most likely open up when the kids are older.I hope this helps

Originally Posted By TiyaWe are currently fostering witht he hopes of soon adopting a sibling group of two. They are part of four though. There has been int he past contact between the four of them but not to much in the last two years. They all live within about an hour of eachother. My question is... We know it is not possible to adopt all four of them but how can we make sure they maintain contact throughout the years? DSS has made it really hard to get them together and their therapist thinks it would be best for there not to be contact between the oldest and my two.Any help would be greatly appreciated!!! The ages of the children are 7.8.10 and 12.Tiya