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For all of my life, any search for my biological family had always centered around my birth mom. Then once I found her, I found out my adoption was a big family secret. I also found out I had several siblings. I felt more happiness and relief in my siblings than I could have imagined. And then one day I realized my mom wasn't at the center anymore. Things had shifted. She was no longer the most important part of my journey. Later my mom and I grew a beautiful relationship. Has anyone had an experience where all of your thoughts and feelings shifted directions?
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A friend of mine recently reunited with her biological family. Her whole life the search had been for her biological parents. But the same thing happened to her, her siblings became what was the most important to her. My theory is that part of it had to do with the fact that she was raised an only child, so she had never had siblings before. She already had parents. Another part of my theory is that there are no feelings of resentment or hurt toward the siblings because they weren't the ones who made the choice to place. That part could be totally off base though. I do know she feels less awkward with them than with her parents. Long story short I think that change of feelings is totally normal!
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