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Originally Posted By pattyhi i'm a 21 year old who knows what it feels like to be an older child in foster care who nobody cares about. i was taken from my biological mother when i was 6. my first grade teacher was on to the abuse i had been suffering all my life and called authorities. my biological mother was given time to get her act together but she refused to change or even try to so i stayed in foster homes until i was 10. during that time, i watched younger foster siblings come and go quickly because they got adopted. i felt like i was worthless and no mother would ever want me. i cried myself to sleep every night for almost 5 years, literally everynight. finally 3 days after my 10th birthday, the nicest couple in all the world came to see me. i remember thinking she was so beautiful and he had a nice smile. i spent alot of time with them over the next couple months trying not to love them, but i did. i figured in the end they would hate me like everyone did. well they loved me, maybe the first time i had ever been loved. they took me home and adopted me. i was theirs for real a week after my 11th bday. 2 years later, they adopted another little girl 9 years old who became the sister i always dreamed about. i'm now a junior in college working toward a degree in social work and have the best fiancee on the planet. my life is so full and it is only becasue of my parents who were willing to take a "less desirable child". the day i came to live with them was the day "i" was born. the person i was before then is gone, really gone. to have someone love you and believe in you is the best feeling life has to offer. i understand that alot of you really want a little baby to raise and that's great and i wish all of you luck. but maybe you can also adopt a slightly older child, their love will be endless as well. right now there are other little boys and girls crying the way i used to. my fiancee and i hope to have a baby together and we are also going to adopt as many older children as we can afford. they deserve it :-). God Bless!
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Originally Posted By moomommyWow Patty, Thank you for sharing. We had already decided to adopt an older child - don't care to do baby things (been there, done that - long before NIKE!) But thank you for your insight. We do wish we had more room in our home for more - but we'll find the right little girl and go from there.Thanks againMoo
Originally Posted By fannyPatty, you touch my heart.i just adopted a boy( he is now 4 1/2) 7 months ago, and i must say that he is my joy.of couse he has trust issue, rage, anger, it is a part of were he is coming from. with good help , i am learning how to deal with.how long did it take you to bond with your parents? i am very happy for you that you find a wonderful fiance and congratulations
Originally Posted By fannyPatty, you touch my heart.i just adopted a boy( he is now 4 1/2) 7 months ago, and i must say that he is my joy.of couse he has trust issue, rage, anger, it is a part of were he is coming from. with good help , i am learning how to deal with.how long did it take you to bond with your parents? i am very happy for you that you find a wonderful fiance and congratulations
Originally Posted By WendyI adopted my son at 7 years old. He was labeled as special needs, therefore he was unofficially considered to be less adoptable. I would not have traded him for a baby for all the tea in China. Babies are great, but to have a child that you can communicate with right away is an amazing thing. We have such a strong bond, and I believe this is due in part to him knowing what he has because he went without love and stability for so long. He recognizes and appreciates what he has in a way that a baby or birth child usually doesn't see until they gain maturity in adulthood.
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