legal question: giving back the adopted child

Originally Posted By NeilI know you asked a legal question but I'm much more interested in (and know much more about) what's good for kids.We don't know whether the child was ten minutes or ten years old when placed with you, whether the adoption was final five minutes or ten years ago, and whether the child is now two months or twelve years old. Nor why the child was placed to begin with, nor what changes the birth parents have made, nor what relationship you have with them, and so on. All of these may make a huge difference!A caution, having been there: People sometimes say they've made changes when they haven't changed very much. Often it's not really that they're lying to you, they are honestly (sometimes, anyway) telling you what they want to and allow themselves to believe, but they haven't been fully honest to themselves. And of course we want to believe them, so we try to, and we all end up in a pickle. We all suffer, but who suffers the most? The kids do. And who had the responsibility to protect them? We do.In very broad terms (which is all anyone can reasonably go into with so many unknowns), I would suggest gradually bringing the birth parents more into the child's life. As the adoptive parent, you have the legal and moral responsibility for the child's wellbeing, and the authority to delegate (to the birth parents or to the man in the moon) as much or as little of the child's care as you see fit.No child was ever too loved, or by too many people. But many children have been hurt too much, too many times, by too many people. Anything that adds to the loving, and not to the hurting, is a good thing.

Originally Posted By kjblackburnI'm assuming that you already have your answer but Iwanted to tell you that this corrupt and immoral worldcould sure use a lot more people with this kind of great attitude.This is a great example of being truelyunselfish.