OK Aparents...tell me how you really feel

Originally Posted By BMom in reunionI have recently reunited with my son that I gave up 23 years ago. I had a semi-open/closed adoption, which means that I met the parents back then once, so I knew their names and I knew what they named my son, but we never had any contact. They did have a picture of me and they did tell my son he was adopted. Shortly after his 23rd birthday, I found an address that turns out to be his parents business, and I sent out a letter. Amazingly, they did give it to him and he responded immediatly. We e-mail almost every day, have talked on the phone a couple times and plan on meeting in about 6 weeks. He is a wonderful, big hearted sweetheart of a guy who has welcomed me and his 1/2 brother and sister with open arms. His parents obviously did a great job raising him. I have even put him in touch with his birthfather and HIS family is also having a great time getting to know him. Genetics are amazing! Not only is he thrilled to finally see some people that look like him, but we have so much in common it's scary. So basically from my standpoint (and my son's too I think) it's been a reunion made in heaven. Now Im worried about his parents. I wrote them a letter thanking them for the wonderful job they have done and telling them I have no intention of trying to barge in and "take over" as his Mom. My son even asked me what he should call me and I insisted he call me by my first name. I told them I dont want to take "their" place, I just hope someday me and my family can have our own special place in his life, just as he would someday make room for a spouse, children etc. They should know that their sons heart is big enough to accomodate everybody. I assured them that I did go on to have a happy life, got married and have 2 kids of my own. But I never received a response from them and my sons girlfriend tells me that they are taking this pretty hard. So what do I do? I cant put the genie back in the bottle. If I were to pull back now, my son would interpret that as rejection, and I will under no circumstances do that. Everybody keeps telling me, just give it time..once they get to know you they will come around. In my experience, anger usually comes from fear. What are they afraid of? They should know their son well enough to know that he would never just blow them off. Heck, Ive only known him a couple months, and I know that! He's fiercely loyal and protective of his loved ones. So now that you know my story, please give me some insight into their side of this. I would lve to hear from adoptive parents whose children have reunited with their birthparents and adoptees and birthmothers who have reunited. Thanks!