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I wonder why it is that birthparents that gave up their children can have their rights protected so feverently. I say this from two perspectives. I am adopted and I also gave up a child for adoption in 1990. When my daughters afamily contacted me, I wasn't sure what to do, but for her sake I kept the lines of communication open with the family. We are trading letters back and forth and sharing information. Because my bdaughter is still a minor. we are not planning a meeting as of yet. So-in order to give my bdaughter some medical information, I decided to search for my bmom. I also lost a daughter to (and I also have) a blood clotting disorder. I contacted the agency that placed me, paid the fee and waited for the phone call. I never had big expectations about having a great relationship with my bmom. I truly just wanted medical info. Too make a long story short, the sw that was doing the searching called and said that my bmom wants nothing to do with me, will not give ANY information. She has kept me a secret from EVERYBODY this whole time. Her parents died without knowing about me. The sw did find out that she never had any other children. I have been trying to find out if there is anyway that I can force her to give me some NON-IDENTIFYING medical info, but once she says no the law is on her side. So....here I sit with no medical info for me or my bdaughter's family. I am so ticked off right now, I really needed to vent. Thanks for reading. If you have any other ideas where I could turn I would be open to them. Nicole