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Learn what signs and symptoms to look for if you suspect you may be pregnant. Also, find out what prenatal care is needed and how to get the best start on your [[pregnancy]].
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Lean about the basics of [[pregnancy]], how to find others also pregnant, and learn about common [[pregnancy]] myths.  
  
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==[[Signs of Pregnancy]]==
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[[Pregnancy]] is a time when you will focus on your body in a way you never have before. It's important to learn to read the [[Signs of Pregnancy|signs of pregnancy]] - those that indicate [[pregnancy]], those that alert you to a problem, and those that assure you all is well. See [[Signs of Pregnancy]] pages.
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==Pregnancy Tests==
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'''How Does a [[Pregnancy Test]] Work?'''
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Even the most uncomplicated [[pregnancy]] will involve a number of tests, from the initial [[Pregnancy Test|pregnancy test]] to screenings for disease to others that mean little to you, but a great deal to your medical practitioner.
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Every [[Pregnancy Test|pregnancy test]], whether urine or blood, works by detecting the presence of human Chorionic Gonadotropin (hCG). If done correctly, a [[Home Pregnancy Test|home pregnancy test]] will be almost as accurate as one done in a lab or doctor's office, but with more privacy and a lot less waiting. They are easy to use and relatively inexpensive. The sooner you know you're pregnant, the sooner you can start taking the best possible care of yourself and your baby. However if done too soon or incorrectly, you could get a false negative result which might cause you to postpone seeing your medical practitioner and taking care of yourself. Even a positive answer can be a problem if you assume that there's no need to see the doctor now that you have the answer. Home tests are a great first step but should never replace a visit to your practitioner.
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A [[Pregnancy Test|pregnancy test]] done in a lab or doctor's office will usually use urine. Some practitioners prefer blood tests, which are more accurate and can help date the [[pregnancy]] by measuring the exact amount of hCG in the blood (important if you have irregular periods of if an ectopic [[pregnancy]] is suspected). A blood test can detect hCG earlier than a urine test, about a week after conception. Lab and office tests aren't as convenient as those done in the home, but their increased accuracy can give you faith in the results.
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Your blood will be tested for type (A, B, AB, or O) and antibody (Rh negative or Rh positive). If your blood is Rh negative and your baby's blood is positive, your [[pregnancy]] will require some special care. Another blood [[Pregnancy Test|pregnancy test]] will check for anemia, while others will check for syphilis, HIV, hepatitis B, and whether or not you are immune to rubella.
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You may have another [[Pregnancy Test|pregnancy test]] about four months into your [[pregnancy]] to check for alpha-fetoprotein (AFP), which can signal a risk of neural tube defects (spina bifida) or [[Down Syndrome]]. Other tests you may have include amniocentesis, chorionic villus sampling (CVS), and genetic testing - all designed to catch a possible problem early, offering time to prepare and possibly begin treatment while still pregnant.
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==Being Pregnant==
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'''[[Pregnancy]] Basics'''
 
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The average human [[pregnancy]] - from the time the egg is fertilized to the moment of delivery - lasts about 280 days. While the most obvious changes are physical, [[pregnancy]] impacts every aspect of a woman's life.
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The average human [[pregnancy]] - from the time the egg is fertilized to the moment of delivery - lasts about 280 days. While the most obvious changes are physical, [[pregnancy]] impacts every aspect of a woman's life.  
  
 
For most women, the clearest sign of [[pregnancy]] is a missed menstrual period. Many women will have symptoms earlier, such as nausea, fatigue, or swollen and tender breasts, but these can have many other causes and are not in themselves a reliable indicator of [[pregnancy]]. Even a missed period can have other causes. If you suspect you're pregnant, call your doctor and have a urine or blood test done so you can begin taking the best care of your baby as soon as possible.
 
For most women, the clearest sign of [[pregnancy]] is a missed menstrual period. Many women will have symptoms earlier, such as nausea, fatigue, or swollen and tender breasts, but these can have many other causes and are not in themselves a reliable indicator of [[pregnancy]]. Even a missed period can have other causes. If you suspect you're pregnant, call your doctor and have a urine or blood test done so you can begin taking the best care of your baby as soon as possible.
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But the changes going on in your body and emotions are nothing compared to those going on with your baby. In just 280 short days, she grows from a fertilized egg to a fully functioning human being. Her journey is accompanied by periods of rapid cell division and differentiation. Growth happens at an almost unbelievable rate. It takes only a couple of months for your baby to have the beginnings of a brain and liver, only 50 days for her embryonic heart to start beating. The weeks of [[pregnancy]] sometimes feel never-ending, but each one brings new developments for you and your baby.
 
But the changes going on in your body and emotions are nothing compared to those going on with your baby. In just 280 short days, she grows from a fertilized egg to a fully functioning human being. Her journey is accompanied by periods of rapid cell division and differentiation. Growth happens at an almost unbelievable rate. It takes only a couple of months for your baby to have the beginnings of a brain and liver, only 50 days for her embryonic heart to start beating. The weeks of [[pregnancy]] sometimes feel never-ending, but each one brings new developments for you and your baby.
  
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==Pregnancy Diary==
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'''What is a [[Pregnancy]] Diary'''
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'''What is a [[Pregnancy Diary]]'''
  
 
When you first find out that you’re pregnant it’s a good idea to keep a [[pregnancy]] diary with information about doctors, medications, dates of progress, and milestones. Also, keep track of how you’re feeling or anything that seems out of the ordinary. These are some things that you could include in your [[pregnancy]] diary:
 
When you first find out that you’re pregnant it’s a good idea to keep a [[pregnancy]] diary with information about doctors, medications, dates of progress, and milestones. Also, keep track of how you’re feeling or anything that seems out of the ordinary. These are some things that you could include in your [[pregnancy]] diary:
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*Doctor’s information (name, address, phone number, email address)
 
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*Postpartum Visits (date, weight, blood pressure, comments/questions)
 
*Postpartum Visits (date, weight, blood pressure, comments/questions)
  
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==[[Pregnancy Forums]]==
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'''Unplanned Pregnancies'''
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'''A Guide to [[Pregnancy Forums]]'''
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[[Pregnancy Forums|Pregnancy forums]] can help any mom-to-be through this exciting and life-changing time. They offer an outlet for pregnant women to vent their frustrations, concerns and questions. [[Pregnancy Forums|Pregnancy forums]] can offer information from other moms-to-be or new moms so that other moms-to-be know that people who have had the experience are answering their questions. Joining and participating in [[Pregnancy Forums|pregnancy forums]] can be fun and easy as long as you follow these simple steps.
  
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An [[Unplanned Pregnancy|unplanned pregnancy]] often creates a crisis, making it difficult to focus on the future. [[Unplanned Pregnancy|Unplanned pregnancy]] is not unique to young, unmarried women. It occurs within marriage and in older women, and it can create a crisis in every life.
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'''What is a forum?'''
  
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The first step is to verify the [[pregnancy]]. There are home [[pregnancy]] tests, confidential [[pregnancy]] testing at [[Crisis Pregnancy|crisis pregnancy]] centers, and ob/gyns (doctors). The second step is to find a support [[system]]. If in-family support is not possible, there are counselors, clergy (priests, ministers, rabbis, etc.), and other who can offer confidential support and guidance.
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A forum is a type of message board on the Internet where people make themselves available for dialog. You can post messages and reply to other people's messages. You may even find someone who lives in your area, in which case you may be able to meet with them face-to-face. It is a place where people who share similar interests can have a place to communicate with one another. A forum can even serve as a type of support group.
  
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For some, an [[Unplanned Pregnancy|unplanned pregnancy]] can lead to the decision to place the child for adoption. The decision to place a child should be an informed decision, made after considering the option of parenting.
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'''How to Find the Right Forum for You'''
  
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Before making any decision regarding your [[pregnancy]], weigh all of your options and consider how each decision will affect you, both now and in the future. Is it a decision you will be proud of? Or ashamed of?
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The best way to start looking for a [[pregnancy]] forum is to search the Internet. Choose a search engine and type in the phrase "[[pregnancy]] forum." You can search the results and then decide which site holds your interest the most. There are some [[pregnancy]] forums that deal with all different topics in [[pregnancy]], such as tips during your [[pregnancy]], [[Pregnancy Complications|pregnancy complications]], and how to make a birth plan. If you feel like making your own topic, many forums have a place for that also.
  
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'''How to Join a Forum'''
  
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A woman who finds herself having to deal with a [[Crisis Pregnancy|crisis pregnancy]] needs to find a place to turn for support and guidance. When you find yourself pregnant, you already have a lot of physical as well as emotional changes going on. [[ADD|Add]] to that the stresses of not knowing what your options are and where to turn, and a [[Crisis Pregnancy|crisis pregnancy]] can be a very traumatic experience. Because of this, it is very important that every woman realizes that there are all kinds of wonderful places where she can go for support and to talk with people who are more than willing to help.
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Usually in order to join a forum you must have an e-mail address. This is so the site can confirm your registration and send you messages. Your e-mail address may even help the site contact you if another person in the forum has sent you a message. You will be asked to create a user name which is a nickname that you will use when you sign in to the forum. People will identify and contact you by this user name. You will create a password, just like you would for your e-mail, so that no one else can sign on under your user name. Some forums will ask you for information to help match you with people who have similar interests or concerns. Some forums will post this for others on the forum to see. The information will be connected only with your user name unless you choose to have your real name displayed with it.
  
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When you are looking for a place to turn, the best thing to keep in mind is that you need to talk to somebody. You can find great help to start with by talking to your doctor. Your doctor can offer reassurance that you are not alone and may be able to answer many of the questions that you have. He or she will also be a good place to get referrals to other resources for further help.
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'''Etiquette'''
  
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You would be amazed at just how much better you will feel once you realize that you have a wonderful support [[system]] in place to help you through every step of the [[pregnancy]] and even after you give birth. If you decide that adoption is best for you, the [[Crisis Pregnancy|crisis pregnancy]] center will also be able to help you through the adoption process with an agency.
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Each forum has its own rules, but general forum etiquette is simple. Do not use abusive or profane language. [[Pregnancy]] forums are not a place to tell people what they are doing wrong or why you think a choice they made is wrong. For example, if there is a topic on the forum site about women who have chosen not to breastfeed, this is not a place to post a message telling them your opinions about why they should never use formula or a bottle - and vice versa. Forums are also not a place for advertising. You can post any kind of messages you want referring to the topic you choose, but if you do not follow the rules your privileges may be revoked by the site owner(s).
  
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Wherever you are able to find help, you always need to remember that you do not have to go through your [[Crisis Pregnancy|crisis pregnancy]] feeling scared and alone.
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'''Advantages'''
  
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There are many advantages to joining a [[pregnancy]] forum. First of all, it is nice to have other people to talk to who are in the same situation as you. Perhaps you are going to be a single parent and you find a forum for other single parents. This forum may offer you advice that you couldn't get somewhere else. Second, it may be a place for you to get your questions answered. Perhaps your doctor is talking about performing tests and you would rather talk to someone who has had them before. A [[pregnancy]] forum would be a great place for you to ask that question. In addition, there is a possibility that you could find other mothers-to-be in your area and [[maybe]] you will form your own support group. You might even make such good friends that you form a play group once your babies are born. Some forums even offer health care providers' advice.
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'''The Challenges of [[Teen Pregnancy]]'''
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[[Pregnancy]] and birth are a challenge for any woman. When it's a [[Teen Pregnancy|teen pregnancy]], the challenges multiply.
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All the issues that any pregnant woman must consider, such as nutrition, child care, finances, and support, are even more pressing for a [[Teen Pregnancy|teen pregnancy]]. In addition, many teens will face pressure to end the [[pregnancy]], [[surrender]] the baby for adoption, or get married - choices not as commonly faced by pregnant adults. And while all pregnant women must decide how to fit a baby into the fabric of their lives, this becomes even more important for a teen who must still worry about finishing school. Teens also face the challenge of breaking the news to family, friends, and boyfriends, knowing that it is likely to be seen as unwelcome by all concerned.
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Unless you happen to join a forum where people begin harassing you or sending you unsolicited e-mail, there probably aren't any disadvantages to joining a forum. Remember that if any of the above does happen to report it immediately to the site owner(s).
  
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Physically, [[Teen Pregnancy|teen pregnancy]] requires some special attention. Prenatal care and excellent nutrition are especially important for a teen who is still growing herself. Many teens will try to avoid gaining weight in hopes of hiding the [[pregnancy]] as long as possible, thus putting both themselves and their babies at risk. Prenatal care may also be difficult for teens, perhaps because they are denying the truth of the [[pregnancy]] or have no access to care. Yet it is vital that they receive care because teens face a greater risk of high blood pressure, anemia, [[miscarriage]], and premature delivery. They must be taught to recognize the symptoms so they will know when there may be a problem.
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Luckily there are a great number of resources available to help guide girls through their [[pregnancy]]. With about half a million teens giving birth each year, they are not alone. Nor does having a child make a teen a social outcast as it did in the past. Many schools have [[programs]] in place to help teens complete their studies, and some have child care available on site. Guidance counselors will know of [[programs]] and classes within the school and the community which are geared toward pregnant teens. The support of school personnel, the teen's parents, and the baby's father are all vital to easing the extra challenges of a [[Teen Pregnancy|teen pregnancy]].
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==[[Ten Pregnancy Myths]]==
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There are a lot of myths surrounding [[pregnancy]], some of them potentially more believable that others.
  
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It is not easy being a pregnant teen. If you are a pregnant teen, you may be curious about what to expect in the coming months and what options you have. When you have finished reading this article, you should feel a little more equipped to handle yourself during this time. Here are some answers to questions you may have as a pregnant teen.
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'''The Heartburn Myth:'''
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If you get lots of headaches during your [[pregnancy]] your baby will have lots of hair when s/he is born. ''False.''
  
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Most women do not want to face a [[pregnancy]] alone. As a teen, you most likely need more of a support [[system]] as your body is still changing and will continue to change into adulthood. Whether or not your tell your parents about your [[pregnancy]] is really your decision, but you may want to think about where you will get that support if not from them. If you feel that you truly can not tell your parents yet, find another trusted adult who can help you in the meantime until you are ready to tell them.
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If you move too much or lift your hands too high in the air the baby will choke or get tangled in the umbilical cord. ''False.''
  
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Once you find out you are pregnant, you need to decide whether or not you will continue the [[pregnancy]] and then whether or not you will keep the baby. Of course, you are ultimately the one who will decide, but it may benefit you to talk to your boyfriend/sexual partner. Some teens may want to maintain the [[pregnancy]] and keep the baby, others may choose adoption. Others decide immediately that they will not be able to handle a [[pregnancy]] and choose to terminate the [[pregnancy]]. No matter which decision you make, you need to be certain that you have given it immense thought and have explored all of your options.
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People that deny you a food you crave will get a sty in their eye. ''False'', although [[maybe]] some of you may wish that were true...
  
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Planned Parenthood offers prenatal care or termination services for pregnant teens. As far as termination services, in most states if you are under 18 you must have parental consent from one or both parents. In some states, a judicial bypass is accepted. Planned Parenthood does not offer counseling services.
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If the baby’s heart rate is slow, it is a boy, if it is fast, it is a girl. ''False.''
  
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If you decide to have the baby but come to the conclusion that you will not be able to care for it, you can choose to place the baby for adoption. There are many agencies that will help you decide the kind of adoption that is right for you. Again, you should think this through and discuss your options with a trusted adult.
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Most importantly, you must seek prenatal care. You may have been seeing a gynecologist already since you have been sexually active. Many women's care centers offer midwives instead of doctors. If this would make you more comfortable, that is an option as well. Just make sure that you have the appropriate care.
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Pregnant teens are less likely to gain the adequate weight, which leads to low birth weight in the baby. Premature birth is also a risk in teenage [[pregnancy]]. A pregnant teen is at more of a risk for other [[Pregnancy Complications|pregnancy complications]] such as anemia and high blood pressure, and these risks are even greater for teens under 15. In order to avoid many of these risks, you MUST make sure that you acquire adequate prenatal care.
 
  
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Great sex will bring on labor. ''False''.
  
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Take the information you have just learned and share it with someone you trust. Hopefully, they will help you to make the right decision for you as a pregnant teen.
 
  
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'''A Guide to [[Pregnancy Forums]]'''
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If you gain weight in your cheeks, you’ll have a girl. If you gain weight in your bottom, you’ll have a boy. ''False''.
  
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[[Pregnancy Forums|Pregnancy forums]] can help any mom-to-be through this exciting and life-changing time. They offer an outlet for pregnant women to vent their frustrations, concerns and questions. [[Pregnancy Forums|Pregnancy forums]] can offer information from other moms-to-be or new moms so that other moms-to-be know that people who have had the experience are answering their questions. Joining and participating in [[Pregnancy Forums|pregnancy forums]] can be fun and easy as long as you follow these simple steps.
 
  
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'''What is a forum?'''
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More women go into labor during the full moon. ''False''.
  
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A forum is a type of message board on the Internet where people make themselves available for dialog. You can post messages and reply to other people's messages. You may even find someone who lives in your area, in which case you may be able to meet with them face-to-face. It is a place where people who share similar interests can have a place to communicate with one another. A forum can even serve as a type of support group.
 
  
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'''The Belly Shape Myth:'''
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If your belly is round, it’s a girl. If it’s more bullet shaped, it’s a boy. ''False''.
  
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The best way to start looking for a [[pregnancy]] forum is to search the Internet. Choose a search engine and type in the phrase "[[pregnancy]] forum." You can search the results and then decide which site holds your interest the most. There are some [[Pregnancy Forums|pregnancy forums]] that deal with all different topics in [[pregnancy]], such as tips during your [[pregnancy]], [[Pregnancy Complications|pregnancy complications]], and how to make a birth plan. If you feel like making your own topic, many forums have a place for that also.
 
  
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The ultrasound can always tell the baby’s sex. ''False''.
  
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Usually in order to join a forum you must have an e-mail address. This is so the site can confirm your registration and send you messages. Your e-mail address may even help the site contact you if another person in the forum has sent you a message. You will be asked to create a user name which is a nickname that you will use when you sign in to the forum. People will identify and contact you by this user name. You will create a password, just like you would for your e-mail, so that no one else can sign on under your user name. Some forums will ask you for information to help match you with people who have similar interests or concerns. Some forums will post this for others on the forum to see. The information will be connected only with your user name unless you choose to have your real name displayed with it.
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==[[Considering Adoption]]==
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Just as with any other important decision in your life, you need to do some [[research]] and make a plan. When you are planning an [[adoption]], you must consider your baby first, but also the desires that you have for this [[adoption]].
  
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Here are some topics to think about, which may help you make an informed decision about [[adoption]]. Talking these things over with someone you trust may be helpful, too. A supportive relative or friend, or an [[adoption]] counselor or attorney may help you think these things through while you are making your [[adoption]] plan.
  
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Each forum has its own rules, but general forum etiquette is simple. Do not use abusive or profane language. [[Pregnancy Forums|Pregnancy forums]] are not a place to tell people what they are doing wrong or why you think a choice they made is wrong. For example, if there is a topic on the forum site about women who have chosen not to breastfeed, this is not a place to post a message telling them your opinions about why they should never use formula or a bottle - and vice versa. Forums are also not a place for advertising. You can post any kind of messages you want referring to the topic you choose, but if you do not follow the rules your privileges may be revoked by the site owner(s).
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Years ago almost all adoptions were conducted in secrecy with no contact between the birth parents and the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]]. These are known as a [[Closed Adoption|closed adoption]]. Today, however, most birth parents meet the couple who will [[adopt]] their baby, and make arrangements for some type of ongoing contact over the years.
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''[[Closed Adoption|Closed adoption]]'' means that there is no contact at all between the birth parents and the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]], and no [[Identifying Information|identifying information]] is exchanged.
  
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''[[Semi-Open Adoptions|Semi-open adoptions]]'' involve agencies or other intermediaries who may pass correspondence between the two parties before or after the [[adoption]], but they will not give out any contact information to either party. If you prefer not to correspond with the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]], that choice is yours.
  
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''[[Open Adoption|Open adoption]]'' offers a wide variety of contact choices, but the basic understanding is that there is open communication between the birth parents and the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]], both before and after the birth. [[Open Adoption|Open adoption]] can include the exchange of letters and photos; face-to-face, first-names-only meetings; sharing full-[[Identifying Information|identifying information]]; and having access on an ongoing basis. The type of communication or contact, the frequency of communication, and any adjustments are worked out between the birth parents and the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]],often with the help of an intermediary, such as an [[adoption]] [[Social Worker|social worker]], attorney, or [[adoption]] counselor. Be aware that choosing an [[Open Adoption|open adoption]] does not mean that you are [[Co-Parenting|co-parenting]] the child. The [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]] will be your baby's legal parents and guardians.
  
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Today, birth parents can select the parents they wants to raise her children. Often agencies and attorneys will show birth parents a selection of profiles and photos of couples.Online profiles of couples hoping to [[adopt]], like Parent Profiles,offer introductions and photos, allowing parents or expectant parents who are making an [[adoption]] plan the opportunity to read these introductions, study their profiles and pictures, and then initiate contact by e-mail or telephone.
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Visit our [[Unplanned Pregnancy]] Options Guide for more information.  [http://adoption.com/unplanned-pregnancy-options/ Click here]
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==Adoption Basics==
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[[Adoption]] is a legal process that creates a new, permanent parent-child relationship where one didn't exist before. The [[adoption]] proceedings take place in court before a Judge.
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[[Adoption]] bestows on the [[Adoptive Parent|adoptive parent]](s) all the rights and responsibilities of a legal parent and gives the child being [[adopted]] all the social, emotional, and legal rights and responsibilities of a family member. Sometimes, court language will include the words "as if born to" to describe the new parent-child relationship. Before [[Parental Rights|parental rights]] are assumed by [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]], the court determines that biological parents have, legally and with full understanding, either voluntarily relinquished their [[Parental Rights|parental rights]], or that those rights have been terminated by the court. Depending on the circumstances and state laws, these two actions - the severing of biological parents' rights and the bestowing of [[Parental Rights|parental rights]] on the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]] - may be done at the same time, at finalization.
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During the court [[Finalization Hearing|finalization hearing]], the judge reviews information about the child, the biological parent(s), and the adopting parent(s).
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The Judge reviews all supporting information about the adopting and placing families, and may ask questions of all parties, including the child/ren if they are able to communicate their feelings and wishes. The Judge will then approve or disapprove the [[Petition to Adopt|petition to adopt]].
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For [[international]] adoptions, U.S. federal and state laws must be observed, as well as the laws and regulations of each country. Depending on the country and the immigrant visa issued for the child, a finalization process may need to be completed in the [[Adoptive Parents|adoptive parents]]' home state.
  
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==Resources==
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The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. “Your [[Pregnancy]] and Birth.” Meredith [[Books]]. 2005.
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Stone, Joanne; Eddleman, Keith; Duenwald, Mary. “[[Pregnancy]] for Dummies.” Wiley Publishing. 2004.

Latest revision as of 21:24, 4 June 2015

Lean about the basics of pregnancy, how to find others also pregnant, and learn about common pregnancy myths.

Being Pregnant

Pregnancy Basics

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The average human pregnancy - from the time the egg is fertilized to the moment of delivery - lasts about 280 days. While the most obvious changes are physical, pregnancy impacts every aspect of a woman's life.

For most women, the clearest sign of pregnancy is a missed menstrual period. Many women will have symptoms earlier, such as nausea, fatigue, or swollen and tender breasts, but these can have many other causes and are not in themselves a reliable indicator of pregnancy. Even a missed period can have other causes. If you suspect you're pregnant, call your doctor and have a urine or blood test done so you can begin taking the best care of your baby as soon as possible.

The changes in your body can be surprising. Everyone knows that your tummy grows dramatically, but who would suspect that pregnancy could lead to acne, a constant stuffed nose, or nine months of bad hair days? Pregnancy impacts every system in your body and has far-reaching emotional implications as well. Mood swings and depression are common. If you feel like you're living on an emotional roller coaster, you're not alone - but if your mood swings are severe or your pre-baby blues are too deep for your comfort level, talk about it with your medical practitioner.

The good news is that recent studies have shown that pregnancy tends to enhance women's perception, efficiency, resiliency, motivation, and emotional intelligence. Pregnancy can also lead to better physical health. Women who have borne children have lower rates of certain cancers (breast, endometrial, and ovarian). Pregnancy can be the first step to recovery from endometriosis, uterine fibroids, and polycystic ovaries. And being a mom can give women new motivation to make healthier, safer choices in areas from nutrition to smoking to driving habits.

But the changes going on in your body and emotions are nothing compared to those going on with your baby. In just 280 short days, she grows from a fertilized egg to a fully functioning human being. Her journey is accompanied by periods of rapid cell division and differentiation. Growth happens at an almost unbelievable rate. It takes only a couple of months for your baby to have the beginnings of a brain and liver, only 50 days for her embryonic heart to start beating. The weeks of pregnancy sometimes feel never-ending, but each one brings new developments for you and your baby.

Pregnancy Diary

What is a Pregnancy Diary

When you first find out that you’re pregnant it’s a good idea to keep a pregnancy diary with information about doctors, medications, dates of progress, and milestones. Also, keep track of how you’re feeling or anything that seems out of the ordinary. These are some things that you could include in your pregnancy diary:

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  • Doctor’s information (name, address, phone number, email address)
  • Hospital’s information (address, phone number)
  • Medications (medications taken, dose, date started, date ended)
  • Vitals (first day of last menstrual period, date of first positive pregnancy test result at home, pre-pregnancy weight, date of first prenatal check-up, symptoms of pregnancy, questions for doctor)
  • Childbirth Education (educator, address of classes, telephone, email, first class date, last class date)
  • First Signs (first heard baby’s heartbeat, first felt baby move)
  • Special Tests (procedure, findings)
  • For Each Prenatal Visit (date, weeks along, weight, blood pressure, uterus height, questions/comments)
  • Labor and Delivery (due date, when labor began, date baby was born, time of delivery, baby’s weight, baby’s length, hospital where baby was born)
  • Postpartum Visits (date, weight, blood pressure, comments/questions)

Pregnancy Forums

A Guide to Pregnancy Forums

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Pregnancy forums can help any mom-to-be through this exciting and life-changing time. They offer an outlet for pregnant women to vent their frustrations, concerns and questions. Pregnancy forums can offer information from other moms-to-be or new moms so that other moms-to-be know that people who have had the experience are answering their questions. Joining and participating in pregnancy forums can be fun and easy as long as you follow these simple steps.

What is a forum?

A forum is a type of message board on the Internet where people make themselves available for dialog. You can post messages and reply to other people's messages. You may even find someone who lives in your area, in which case you may be able to meet with them face-to-face. It is a place where people who share similar interests can have a place to communicate with one another. A forum can even serve as a type of support group.

How to Find the Right Forum for You

The best way to start looking for a pregnancy forum is to search the Internet. Choose a search engine and type in the phrase "pregnancy forum." You can search the results and then decide which site holds your interest the most. There are some pregnancy forums that deal with all different topics in pregnancy, such as tips during your pregnancy, pregnancy complications, and how to make a birth plan. If you feel like making your own topic, many forums have a place for that also.

How to Join a Forum

Usually in order to join a forum you must have an e-mail address. This is so the site can confirm your registration and send you messages. Your e-mail address may even help the site contact you if another person in the forum has sent you a message. You will be asked to create a user name which is a nickname that you will use when you sign in to the forum. People will identify and contact you by this user name. You will create a password, just like you would for your e-mail, so that no one else can sign on under your user name. Some forums will ask you for information to help match you with people who have similar interests or concerns. Some forums will post this for others on the forum to see. The information will be connected only with your user name unless you choose to have your real name displayed with it.

Etiquette

Each forum has its own rules, but general forum etiquette is simple. Do not use abusive or profane language. Pregnancy forums are not a place to tell people what they are doing wrong or why you think a choice they made is wrong. For example, if there is a topic on the forum site about women who have chosen not to breastfeed, this is not a place to post a message telling them your opinions about why they should never use formula or a bottle - and vice versa. Forums are also not a place for advertising. You can post any kind of messages you want referring to the topic you choose, but if you do not follow the rules your privileges may be revoked by the site owner(s).

Advantages

There are many advantages to joining a pregnancy forum. First of all, it is nice to have other people to talk to who are in the same situation as you. Perhaps you are going to be a single parent and you find a forum for other single parents. This forum may offer you advice that you couldn't get somewhere else. Second, it may be a place for you to get your questions answered. Perhaps your doctor is talking about performing tests and you would rather talk to someone who has had them before. A pregnancy forum would be a great place for you to ask that question. In addition, there is a possibility that you could find other mothers-to-be in your area and maybe you will form your own support group. You might even make such good friends that you form a play group once your babies are born. Some forums even offer health care providers' advice.

Disadvantages

Unless you happen to join a forum where people begin harassing you or sending you unsolicited e-mail, there probably aren't any disadvantages to joining a forum. Remember that if any of the above does happen to report it immediately to the site owner(s).

Now that you have adequate information about pregnancy forums, go ahead and decide if it is right for you.

Ten Pregnancy Myths

Is That Really True?

There are a lot of myths surrounding pregnancy, some of them potentially more believable that others.

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The Heartburn Myth: If you get lots of headaches during your pregnancy your baby will have lots of hair when s/he is born. False.


The Umbilical Cord Myth: If you move too much or lift your hands too high in the air the baby will choke or get tangled in the umbilical cord. False.


The Curse Myth: People that deny you a food you crave will get a sty in their eye. False, although maybe some of you may wish that were true...


The Heart Rate Myth: If the baby’s heart rate is slow, it is a boy, if it is fast, it is a girl. False.


The Ugly Stick Myth: If you see something ugly or horrible, the baby will be ugly. Definitely false.


The Java Myth: If you drink too much coffee or had unfulfilled cravings, the baby will be born with light brown birthmarks. False.


The Spicy Food Myth: If you eat really spicy food, it will induce labor. False.


The Great Sex Myth: Great sex will bring on labor. False.


The Round Face Myth: If you gain weight in your cheeks, you’ll have a girl. If you gain weight in your bottom, you’ll have a boy. False.


The Full Moon Myth: More women go into labor during the full moon. False.


The Belly Shape Myth: If your belly is round, it’s a girl. If it’s more bullet shaped, it’s a boy. False.


The Ultrasound Tells All Myth: The ultrasound can always tell the baby’s sex. False.

Considering Adoption

Just as with any other important decision in your life, you need to do some research and make a plan. When you are planning an adoption, you must consider your baby first, but also the desires that you have for this adoption.

Here are some topics to think about, which may help you make an informed decision about adoption. Talking these things over with someone you trust may be helpful, too. A supportive relative or friend, or an adoption counselor or attorney may help you think these things through while you are making your adoption plan.

Adoption choices

Years ago almost all adoptions were conducted in secrecy with no contact between the birth parents and the adoptive parents. These are known as a closed adoption. Today, however, most birth parents meet the couple who will adopt their baby, and make arrangements for some type of ongoing contact over the years.

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Closed adoption means that there is no contact at all between the birth parents and the adoptive parents, and no identifying information is exchanged.

Semi-open adoptions involve agencies or other intermediaries who may pass correspondence between the two parties before or after the adoption, but they will not give out any contact information to either party. If you prefer not to correspond with the adoptive parents, that choice is yours.

Open adoption offers a wide variety of contact choices, but the basic understanding is that there is open communication between the birth parents and the adoptive parents, both before and after the birth. Open adoption can include the exchange of letters and photos; face-to-face, first-names-only meetings; sharing full-identifying information; and having access on an ongoing basis. The type of communication or contact, the frequency of communication, and any adjustments are worked out between the birth parents and the adoptive parents,often with the help of an intermediary, such as an adoption social worker, attorney, or adoption counselor. Be aware that choosing an open adoption does not mean that you are co-parenting the child. The adoptive parents will be your baby's legal parents and guardians.

Today, birth parents can select the parents they wants to raise her children. Often agencies and attorneys will show birth parents a selection of profiles and photos of couples.Online profiles of couples hoping to adopt, like Parent Profiles,offer introductions and photos, allowing parents or expectant parents who are making an adoption plan the opportunity to read these introductions, study their profiles and pictures, and then initiate contact by e-mail or telephone.

Visit our Unplanned Pregnancy Options Guide for more information. Click here

Adoption Basics

Adoption is a legal process that creates a new, permanent parent-child relationship where one didn't exist before. The adoption proceedings take place in court before a Judge.

Adoption bestows on the adoptive parent(s) all the rights and responsibilities of a legal parent and gives the child being adopted all the social, emotional, and legal rights and responsibilities of a family member. Sometimes, court language will include the words "as if born to" to describe the new parent-child relationship. Before parental rights are assumed by adoptive parents, the court determines that biological parents have, legally and with full understanding, either voluntarily relinquished their parental rights, or that those rights have been terminated by the court. Depending on the circumstances and state laws, these two actions - the severing of biological parents' rights and the bestowing of parental rights on the adoptive parents - may be done at the same time, at finalization.

During the court finalization hearing, the judge reviews information about the child, the biological parent(s), and the adopting parent(s). This information can include:

  • Homestudy and/or other evaluation of the adopting parent(s) and their suitability for the child
  • Reports of pre-adoption counseling and education for both placing and adopting parents
  • Case workers' notes and recommendations
  • Other reports.

Those who appear at the finalization hearing (either separately or together), in addition to the Judge, may include, but are not limited to:

  • Adopting parent(s)
  • Their attorney
  • Placing parent(s)
  • Their attorney
  • The child/ren
  • The child's legal advocate and/or case worker
  • Adoptive parents' case worker
  • Placing parents' case worker

The Judge reviews all supporting information about the adopting and placing families, and may ask questions of all parties, including the child/ren if they are able to communicate their feelings and wishes. The Judge will then approve or disapprove the petition to adopt.

If approved, the adoption is finalized and an Adoption Decree is issued.

In most U.S. jurisdictions, at the time the adoption is finalized, the child's name is legally changed, and the court orders the issuance of a new, amended birth certificate for the adopted child. This amended birth certificate:

  • replaces the name(s) of the biological parent(s) with the names of the adoptive parent(s), and
  • replaces the child's birth name with his/her new name.

The original birth certificate and other documents relating to the adoption are sealed, and are generally not available to parties to the adoption, as detailed in state law in the U.S.

For international adoptions, U.S. federal and state laws must be observed, as well as the laws and regulations of each country. Depending on the country and the immigrant visa issued for the child, a finalization process may need to be completed in the adoptive parents' home state.

Visit our Unplanned Pregnancy Options Guide for more information. Click here


Back to Pregnancy

Resources

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. “Your Pregnancy and Birth.” Meredith Books. 2005. Stone, Joanne; Eddleman, Keith; Duenwald, Mary. “Pregnancy for Dummies.” Wiley Publishing. 2004.