How does one help a person who is considering adoption for their unborn child? What is the best way to talk with a birth parent after placement? Our panel of birth mothers tell us that it is always best to be open and honest. Approaching the topic with kindness, even with questions, is essential. Humor is always acceptable, when shared in good taste. Our birth mothers tell us that it’s OK to ask questions about the children they placed for adoption, it’s OK to ask about adoption and relinquishment terminology, it’s OK to ask about feelings. Birth mothers love their children and love to talk about them. Make the assumption that there is no shame, as was common a few decades ago, but that birth mothers are happy to talk about their situations.