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Originally Posted By Cale
My child doesn't know my husband isn't the bio father. My husband was there the day I found out I was pregnant, and ever since. Mother-in-law forced me to put real father on birth-certificate (I was a stupid kid at the time). Child is now 7, and I am afraid that court proceedings would be obvious, and my child would find out. This would break my husband's heart, and seems unnecessary. Any advice
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Originally Posted By Cale
My child doesn't know my husband isn't the bio father. My husband was there the day I found out I was pregnant, and ever since. Mother-in-law forced me to put real father on birth-certificate (I was a stupid kid at the time). Child is now 7, and I am afraid that court proceedings would be obvious, and my child would find out. This would break my husband's heart, and seems unnecessary. Any advice
my advice is to tell your child the truth. lying to him/her about who their father is is not a good idea, and could cause your child to resent you and other problems.
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You shouldn't hide the adoption. It will be easier for your child to learn the truth at an earlier age, than to be faced with it at a later age. The fact that your husband is not the child's biological father does not change the fact that he has been there for your son for the past seven years. Your son deserves to know the truth, and hiding that from him will only cause him to resent you and your husband from keeping it from him when he does find out.
I would suggest finding a good counselor to help your family deal with this. Keeping this as a secret will only harm your family in the long run.
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