Why the inconsistant contact?

ULTREA,Not everyone is capable of self-reflection to the degree that you appear to be. You have to meet her at her level.I would recommend against pressing her to share any emotions right now. Let them come out organically. You mentioned that you had a seemingly warm reunion and connected. Then, she wrote you an angry email. Hypothesis 1: She started to realize everything that she lost by not having you in her life, and it become difficult for her to deal with emotionally. Hypothesis 2: She feels guilty for feeling so close to you because she has parents who raised her. . . . I am so sorry. I wish my mother was as interested in knowing me as you are in knowing your daughter.