Top 10 Questions to Ask an Adoption Agency if You’re Pregnant and Considering Adoption

Are you considering making an adoption plan? Read this list of questions to ask an adoption agency before committing to them.

Sarah M. Baker May 11, 2015

Choosing to place your child for adoption is an enormous decision that you surely won’t take lightly. Numerous questions must be answered. Are you considering making an adoption plan? If you are, these ten questions will help you select the right adoption agency for you. Having a good agency to work with will help your journey go a lot smoother because the agency helps to answer your questions. Emotional support as well as help along the way and in the future is a vital part of the process.

Does the agency offer counseling on my alternate options?
1. Does the agency offer counseling on my alternate options?

Knowing the agency is looking out for your best interest is very reassuring. An adoption counselor should make sure you have reviewed all your options and that you want to place the child for the right reasons.

Will the agency help me understand adoption and possible outcomes?
2. Will the agency help me understand adoption and possible outcomes?

Not all adoptions end with a happily-ever-after. The agency should prepare you for the best, middle and worst case scenarios. You can then weigh the risks against the benefits to make your decision.

Does the agency support open adoption?
3. Does the agency support open adoption?

Open adoption is proven healthier for the child. It promotes self-identity, healing, and the preservation of information. Open adoption should be encouraged most situations.

Will the agency help me navigate insurance and other paperwork?
4. Will the agency help me navigate insurance and other paperwork?

If you don’t already have insurance, you may qualify for Medicaid or a low cost insurance. Find out if the agency will help you obtain that information as well as anything else that can be helpful to you during your pregnancy.

Does the agency offer counseling post adoption?
5. Does the agency offer counseling post adoption?

Sometimes grief hits when you least expect it. You may be perfectly fine at the time of placement, but a year or two later have intense pain. Will they still be there for you?

What does the agency require of adoptive parents?
6. What does the agency require of adoptive parents?

Understanding the training, background checks, fertility requirements, and other factors will help you decide if they will have a good pool of potential families for you to choose from.

Will the agency be understanding if I decide to parent?
7. Will the agency be understanding if I decide to parent?

An adoption agency is in business to facilitate adoptions. So what happens if you change your mind? Will they support you? Will they try to guilt you into placement anyhow? Follow your gut on this one.

If a complication in the adoption relationship arises, will you provide mediation to us?
9. If a complication in the adoption relationship arises, will you provide mediation to us?

Sometimes misunderstandings happen and can ruin a good relationship. Will the agency help you work through the waters if they get rocky?

Does the agency offer resource aid or counseling to help me in life?
10. Does the agency offer resource aid or counseling to help me in life?

You have likely come to the decision to place your child for adoption because of something in your life that you feel will prevent you from being able to parent at this time. It may be housing, employment, money, relationships, support, etc. Will the agency help steer you in the direction of working toward a brighter future?

Do you have birth mothers who previously placed through you I can talk to as references?
11. Do you have birth mothers who previously placed through you I can talk to as references?

Asking for real life references is a great place to start. But the agency may only provide you with their shining star reviews. So be sure to also read public reviews. For reviews and a list of agencies in your area visit our reviews page.

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Sarah M. Baker

Sarah is a Staff Storyteller for Adoption.com and passionate about teaching others the power of open adoption. She is very active in the adoption community, where she spends a lot of time advocating as the founder of Heart For Open Adoption. She is the mom of two boys in addition to parenting her niece. She is a mother biologically and through domestic infant open adoption. Sarah promotes adoption education and ethical adoptions. She and her husband were featured on Season 2 of Oxygen’s “I’m Having Their Baby,” which tells the story of their first adoption match failing. Sarah hopes to bring her personal experience to you and help anyone who wants more information about adoption to find it with ease. Though it was once a taboo subject, Sarah hopes to make adoption something people are no longer afraid to talk about. You can learn more about Sarah and her family on her blog.


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