Pinterest/Adoption junkies may have come to the end of adoption quotes made cute on Pinterest. Sure, people add to Pinterest daily, but it’s not like adoption quotes go on for infinity. But who says a quote has to be created for adoption to apply to adoption? Not me!
6 Pinterest Quotes Not About Adoption That Are Totally About Adoption
These may not mention adoption, but I'm hoping these quotes will uplift and encourage you on your adoption journey!
Your foster or older adopted child probably isn’t going to have an immediate bond with you just because you’re now Mom or Dad. You might get a hug at meeting, but it won’t be as natural on his part as it is on yours. Don’t patiently wait for your child to get to that place. Show him every moment of every day what love is. Adjust your expressions to actions your child understands. Increase your child’s ability to feel and to express by being vulnerable yourself. Love with your whole heart. That’s how your child will learn.
Oh, I know! It’s exhausting, this adoption thing is. Just when you think you’ve done all you can, more is required. And I’m not just talking about the paperwork and home studies . . . it’s the emotional effort. So much more strenuous than one would suppose. But don’t stop! Don’t let discouragement halt your progress. Grab onto the momentum you’ve created, that effort that began as an idea and then snowballed into your life’s mission. Hang on for the ride through the tough times and hustle hard when there’s something you can do. Hustle hard, girl!
No one but a birth mother can know how very hard it is to place a child who has been a part of her for months. No one. All the time leading up to relinquishment, then signing the papers and physically placing your child into her parents arms . . . it’s surreal, something that cannot be expressed. Yes, it’s an ending. But it’s also a beginning. A beginning of life for your child, a beginning of a new family, and a beginning for you, the birth mother. Trust that your ending will be a magnificent beginning!
Sometimes we just need a bit of a boost to get us motivated to get out of bed. You’d never trade your precious new baby for a full night of sleep, but going about in a zombie-like manner for several days in a row has made you question pretty much everything. But determine to feel exceptional! You really are important, needed, and unique. You are your child’s parent. For now, you are her life!
You had so much attention showered on you when everyone had an opinion: Keep the baby – you’ll be a great parent; Place your baby – there’s really no other option, and on and on . . . And the attention didn’t go away when you made your decision to place. Attention from well-meaning friends and family wanting to help you choose his parents, attention from the couple you chose, attention from the social worker, and more. Lots and lots of support leading up to the moment. And now, just because life has gone on for everyone else, they assume it’s gone on for you, too. Well, that’s not surprising – your life really has gone on. But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. How nice it would be to get another bear hug and be told that it’ll be all right. Sadly, sometimes we have to ask for what we need. So stay strong, stay happy, and keep moving forward! But be bold in asking for support – that doesn’t mean you’re weak.
Well, this doesn’t mean we haven’t tried to change things! Infertility is cruel. With medical technology improving constantly, it seems there ought to be a way for me to conceive. But it didn’t happen. It doesn’t happen. Sometimes there are things we just cannot change. But oh! How hardship can change us! Am I a better mom for having had to fight to get this child? Probably. At least, I think I’m more grateful – which I hope will make me more patient, more aware, and . . . just more.
Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fuflilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at DenaleeChapman.com.
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