It was a Monday evening around 8:00 p.m. when our two new sons through foster care arrived. This made us parents to four boys under the age of two: virtual triplet one-year-olds and an 8-month-old who was significantly delayed.
The next day car seats, high chairs, clothes, sippy cups, pack and plays, formula, baby food, and hundreds of diapers landed on our doorstep and living room floor. Hundreds of dollars of food was dropped off in paper bags. We had everything we needed and more. The support poured in from all angles. This support was from a village of people who were both in person and online: it was a humbling time of gratitude.
For nearly two years, we had been investing ourselves into an adoptive and foster care support group—a community of friends who were walking similar journeys to ours.
Our two permanent boys are virtual twins: one biological, one by adoption. Though we know many friends and family have walked the road of parenthood and having babies or toddlers in their home (the ages we were at), there was an added layer to our story many of those same friends and family couldn’t possibly fully grasp: adoption.
Here’s what I have come to know deeply: both types of villages—the people who aren’t in my physical life OR who don’t share this journey AND the people who share a similar journey—are absolutely a gift to cherish.
Something else I’ve come to know just as deeply is that having an adoption (and foster) support group—in person—is invaluable for a number of reasons.
Here are 8 reasons to have an adoption support group: