Beautiful Open Adoption Moments from the Holidays

Open adoption is beautiful!

Kenna Shumway January 06, 2016

Christmas is such a beautiful time of year. Not only is everything covered in twinkling lights and magic, but it’s a time when we make the extra effort to be near those we love. For our family, this includes our son’s birth parents. We were lucky enough to live within a few miles of both his birth mother and his birth father for a few years. This allowed us to visit not only his birth parents, but his birth parent’s families as well. It is so important to us that we have healthy and loving relationships with his birth families.

When my husband was accepted to a pharmacy program in Ohio, we made an extra effort to stay in contact with Harley’s birth parents in Utah. Technology makes this all possible.  When we visit in person, my phone takes photos of smiles, tickle monster attacks, fast kisses, and long hugs. If we are 1,800 miles away, Harley can carry around my phone while talking to his birth mother on face time, showing her all his new toys and latest watercolor paintings.

I hope you enjoy these photos from our holiday visits with Harley’s birth parents. Some are blurry, others are photos of Skype calls, but to us, they are all beautiful. We love open adoption!

Day Before Christmas
1. Day Before Christmas

Our son, Harley, on Christmas Eve.

Special Bond
2. Special Bond

Tickle attacks on Harley with his birth grandpa. For us, we feel comfortable with Harley calling his birth parents’ parents grandma and grandpa. This is his birth mother’s father. These two have always had a special bond.

More Tickle Attacks
3. More Tickle Attacks

This is Harley with his birth father. More tickle attacks! The look on his birth father’s face shows how loved Harley is.

Creating Precious Memories
4. Creating Precious Memories

Harley and his birth father before our visit ended. It is so important to us that we document these moments for not only Harley, but for his birth parents. We love sending them photos from our visits.

Love From All Sides
5. Love From All Sides

Harley’s birth grandma (birth mom's mom) explaining to him how his new toy works. Harley is spoiled, but we don’t think he minds. Seeing Harley so comfortable and loving towards all of his birth family members is a beautiful part of open adoption.

All Smiles
6. All Smiles

Harley is on his birth mother’s lap and surround by her family. From left to right: birth uncle, grandpa, grandma, mother, and aunt. All their smiles are infectious.

Tangible Love
7. Tangible Love

Saying good-bye can be so hard. Here, Harley bugs his birth mother goodbye after a tender Christmas visit. The love he has for his birth mother and family is tangible, as is their love for him.

Skypemas
9. Skypemas

When we aren’t able to make it back home to Utah for Christmas, we always make sure to have what we call “Skypemas!” Harley loves showing off his new toys, and we love chatting with his birth families as well.

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Kenna Shumway

Wife. Adoptive mom. Writer. Photographer. Endometriosis survivor, infertility warrior & adoption advocate. Rock star on weekends. Currently calls Ohio home with her pharmacist husband and their ginger son. Read more from her on her blog.


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