millie58

You may have to keep her at arm’s length. She sounds narcisstic.

Not sure where you are but in NY I got very little time. The most time I had was 2 days for an infant I wasn’t supposed to get. And you can always decline a placement.

How is the agency helping? Do you know the back story?

Depends on a lot of factors. Has the sister been with the other family over a extended period? I think case workers try not to remove kids like they used to. Keep writing/emailing the caseworker so you have proof of your intent.

My kids were 12, 7 for the older2 and 8 and 6 for the younger 2. The oldest one’s name is iffy but it got him at 13 and his birth mother convinced him to keep it. The next one has a name most can live with. The 2 little ones had questionable names and both chose to change their names. Third son changed first and middle while youngest changed his first. Try talking to the kids.

This. So very true. I adopted as a single mother. I did not date so as to keep my kids secure. Kids in foster care need either more than 1 parent or a single parent with a very strong support system.

A doctor has to sign off on it.‘

Depends. If the claim was unfounded, kinship could happen. Depends on the claim and the outcome.

Proceed slowly but don’t assume his mom is controlling. Social media posts can be misleading. Good luck.