In direct placement adoption or private/independent adoption, a birth mother chooses the adoptive parents and places the child directly with them. Initial contact is made directly between a pregnant woman and prospective adoptive parents and/or through the use of an attorney.
In some cases, what begins as an independent adoption then becomes what is known as an "identified adoption," where the birth mother and adoptive parents locate one another independently, but then go together to a licensed adoption agency.
To proceed with direct placement adoption, you will need an experienced adoption attorney who can help guide you through the process or, in some cases, an adoption facilitator, as defined by your state law.
Only five states do not permit independent adoption—Colorado, Connecticut, Delaware, Massachusetts, and North Dakota.
While direct placement is usually initiated by the birth mother, should you choose this route, you will also need to know about the birth father. Most states have recognized the rights of birth fathers to be involved in all decisions made regarding their children, including placement for adoption. These states have paternity registries where birth fathers can acknowledge a child as their biological offspring.
The risks associated with direct placement adoption are mainly emotional ones in cases where birth parents initially agree to place a child for adoption, but then change their minds.
Adoptive families also risk losing the money they have paid to their attorney, as well as any expenses they have covered for the expectant mother. Typically, these costs are not reimbursed.
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