International Adoption Discussion: When People Ask Rude Questions

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Denalee Chapman November 21, 2015

Our panel talks about questions asked by friends and strangers which may seem rude. Most often, the questioner does not intend any emotional harm. Usually, questions are asked out of ignorance, and most often just out of curiosity.

Being prepared to handle such questions before they happen is good advice. When potentially rude questions are asked in front of the child, it’s important, as a parent, to help your child work through hearing that. Our social worker suggests that talking with the child after the question is asked, helping your child understand that his/her reaction to the question is okay will be beneficial.

None of us can control what comes out of another person’s mouth. But we can control our responses and we can certainly help our children work through feelings after hearing it.

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at

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