Parents Talk About Dealing with a Lack of Control in Adoption

An Original Video | International Adoptive Parent Voices

Denalee Chapman December 14, 2015

Often adoptive parents will say that the hardest part of adoption is the roller coaster of emotions, processes, gains and losses. Preparation for the unknown is good advice. Adoptive parents, especially in the international adoption arena, have little or no control. Laws change, illnesses occur, minds change, and more. As adults, we have grown accustomed to schedules and to control. Yet when adopting internationally the control lies with agencies, governments, orphanages, and birth mothers. With control taken completely away, hopeful adoptive parents generally need to rely on hope and faith. To release emotional and mental control will help in the achievement of peace as the process takes care of itself is to allow you, the adoptive parent, to be at peace.

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at

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