Video: Mother Chooses to Disrupt Adoption Because of a Lack of Bonding

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Denalee Chapman April 26, 2015

Broadcast on the TV Show, Today, is Anita, an adoptive mother who talks about her traumatic experience. She adopted little “D” and truly loved him. But the bonding never took place.  Because she wants the best life he can possibly have, and found that she wasn’t being able to provide it, Anita disrupted the adoption. She “gave him back.”

While seeking professional help to establish a connection, she also realized that bonding is a two-way street. Not only did “D’s” past keep him from attaching, Anita also was not attaching to “D.”

There was no specific problem—it was just over-all, not bonding. Anita knew she would not be able to provide the very best life for him, and also knew that he deserved it. To Anita, this was an act of love—giving “D” a chance for his best life.

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at

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