Adoptive Parents Answer “Who are Their Real Parents?’ Original Video | Adoptive Parent Voices

Denalee Chapman August 07, 2015

When the question is asked of adoptive parents, “Who is your child’s real parent?” the reaction can be strong. Usually the question is asked out of ignorance. The response can be both enlightening and educational for the person who asked the question.

“Real” is an ambiguous word. A proper response by an adoptive parent may be, “I’m her mom, but she also has a birth mother.” There are other appropriate responses that could be explored. Helping your child understand that love is real, whether it’s from the birth family or adoptive family, will be a great foundation for the adoptee to answer that question when it comes directly to him or her.

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at

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