4 Tips For Balancing Adoption Reunions And Adoptive Family Relationships

There’s a fine line between being completely transparent and holding certain information close to the vest. That line may differ based on the relationship between the individuals involved. To determine the line, it’s important to pay attention to the cues of others. Are they the type of person that would be offended? Would he or she feel like you were going behind his or her back if you don’t give a heads up about your search and reunion? Perhaps that person is the type that might like a hint, but does not want to hear anything else about it. It’s not a one-size-fits-all approach that’s needed. Tune in to the cues.

How are you feeling about the situation? It’s true that you should be sensitive and tune in to others’ cues, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect your own needs. You have every right to take care of yourself as part of the process, and you should. It’s emotionally charged by nature. If you are feeling shame or guilt, or other negative emotions brought about by the situation or by some of the individuals involved, be sure to check in with yourself and make sure your own needs are being met too.

Because adoption reunions and adoptive family relationships can be sensitive in nature, it’s important to think through how you are going to approach your search and reunion as it relates to the connection you have with your adoptive family. While there is no need to kill yourself thinking through every possible set of circumstances and responses, you should think through the process and some potential scenarios and responses just so you are prepared to remain even keel and balanced throughout the process.