Bittersweet

This video sums up the emotions a birthmother experiences when an adoption is finalized.

Jessalynn Speight January 17, 2014

Finalization comes with so many feelings.

On one side the adoptive couple is thrilled. “He is ours,” they say.

On the other hand, the birth parent is struggling to find joy. It hurts. She is happy because the child is with the couple they chose them to be with, but she is pained to know it is real.

“What’s best for you is hardest for me.” Truer words have not been spoken.

This video shows that sometimes, although you may be at peace with your adoption, you just want to scream. There is emotion built up and sometimes there is no “proper” way to release the pain and emotion felt.

 

Watch for the bit at the end where her birth son is cooing at her.  There is so much beauty in that moment. Through all the pain, JOY can be felt.

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Jessalynn Speight

Jessalynn Bills Speight placed for adoption 5.5 years ago. She gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. She placed her in the arms of an incredible family and share a wonderful open adoption. When her birth daughter was 6 months old she started a blog called www.Birthmothers4Adoption.com, 2 years later she got married to a stud muffin. She now has two kids and 2 fur babies. She resides in good ol' Utah. She started hosting retreats for adoptive couples and has now moved on to hosting birth mother retreats as well. She has presented at conferences and taught classes at women's retreats. She recently had an article in Cosmopolitan, was featured on Fox National News, The Kelly File, and several local news channels. She's helped film a documentary about adoption, a video called the Agape Project, and has blogged for many other websites and online magazines. She is an avid foodie and enjoys cooking, traveling, rescuing animals, learning about holistic healing, history, and photography.


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