There is nothing you can possibly give your child’s birth mother to thank her enough for choosing you as the family she places her child with, but a sentimental gift after placement can be a sweet and meaningful gesture. Here are some ideas!
Gifts For Birth Moms After Placement
Try one of these sweet and meaningful gifts!
I can’t take credit for this idea, but we gave our daughters’ birth parents a stuffed elephant, and our daughters got matching elephants. Elephants never forget and we wanted to show them that we recognize that not only will they never forget each other, but also we as adoptive parents will never forget our promise to both birth mom and child to do whatever possible to uphold an open adoption.
Photo Credit | Lara604
In the same vein of matching gifts, if you’re crafty, matching quilts for birth mom and baby is a gift that will last for years to come. It also, like the elephant, gives your child’s birth mom something to hold on to when she leaves the hospital.
Photo Credit | normanack
A necklace with your child’s initials or name on it is a way for your child’s birth mom to keep her baby close to her heart all the time.
Photo Credit | Cathy Wellman
If you’re crafty you could make this, otherwise people on Etsy can do it for you, like CrazyLeggies, who made the bear pictured here. Take the outfit your child left the hospital with (maybe buy two, so you can save one of the outfits in your own memory box) or some other sentimental clothes and have it turned into a bear.
This necklace from Charmed Collections is an example of a simple and meaningful gift for birth mom and daughter to share. It’s also subtle; the recipients will know what it means, but it won’t scream “adoption” to everyone who sees it.
Maya Brown-Zimmerman is a mother of three, both biologically and through adoption. She has been blogging since before it was cool, and is passionate about everything from open and ethical adoption to special needs advocacy and patient-physician communication. In her spare time (ha!) she's on the board of directors for a medical nonprofit and enjoys medical and crime dramas. You can read more from her on her blog, Musings of a Marfan Mom.
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