Stacey & Pit

Hi, our names are Pit and Stacey. Thank you for taking the time to get to know us! Thank you also for considering us to adopt your baby. You would be giving us the greatest gift, a chance to raise your beautiful child. We would devote ourselves to your baby, every minute of every day. We would always honor your precious gift to us.

We understand that you are about to make a big decision for you and your child’s future. We know that you have such a deep love for your child and are looking out for this child’s best interests. We truly admire you for putting your child first and considering all possible options, including adoption. We know how incredibly brave you are being for your child right now.

We would love for you to get to know us in the hopes that you would consider us to adopt your baby. We put this book together to help you make this important decision. We want you to know where we come from, how we were raised, who we are, how much we love children, and the wonderful life we would be honored to provide for your baby. We can’t wait to meet you in person!


Our Relationship Story

We met during our freshman year of college at New York University. We lived on the same floor in the dorm and were both a part of a really close group of friends. The next year we lived in separate places and realized that we had feelings for each other. Pit came to Stacey’s apartment very early one morning with warm cinnamon rolls and we officially became a couple.

We were together for ten great years before we got married. During this time, we created a really strong foundation as a couple. We enjoyed life in New York City together, traveled, supported each other as we started our careers, and brought home our sweet and playful puppies Noot and Ella. We got engaged in Central Park and planned our dream wedding, which took place eight years ago.

Because we come from families of different backgrounds and traditions, we were lucky enough to have both an Indian wedding and an American wedding that incorporated some Chinese traditions. We love that our family is a mix of cultures that we can celebrate, and we would be even more thrilled to add your baby’s cultural traditions, too!


How We See Each Other
Stacey says: I fell in love with Pit as just friends at first. Our friends and I used to jokingly call him the leader of our group, and I quickly grew fond of him for it. He just naturally finds ways to include everyone, to make everyone feel at ease. And his intentions are always so genuine. Then as we established a relationship, I fell in love with him for the way he takes care of me and makes me feel loved. I deeply appreciate our partnership, and I look back to see all of the ways he has supported me during our many years together. One of my favorite qualities about Pit is his sense of humor. He is just so much fun to be around because he’s constantly goofy! It always puts a smile on my face. And when I’m having a hard time, he knows exactly how to use humor to immediately turn my day around.

Pit says: When Stacey and I were in college and no longer living in the same dorm, I came to realize how much I missed her and how much joy she brought into my life. I wanted to soak in that feeling, and Stacey has continued bringing me that joy in different ways ever since. She is incredibly loving and conscientious of people important to her, and I have always felt like she would do anything for me and our family. One of my favorite qualities about Stacey is how excited she will get for things that are fun for our family; for example, when we go on a family vacation, Stacey excitedly plans all kinds of activities that are interesting for all members of our family. When we get home, Stacey reviews all the footage we took and makes a video of memories for that trip. From beginning to end Stacey is thinking about how to maximize fun for our whole family.

Holidays:
Every single day is special in some way, but holidays are extra fun! We love the idea of having family traditions that we look forward to each year.

Halloween is one of our favorite holidays. Each year we choose a family-themed costume. We make them at home from boxes or fabric. Last year we followed a garbage truck theme and this year was a tow truck theme! We love embracing Bodhi’s interests when choosing costumes and then wearing them while trick or treating!

We start the festivities the weekend after Thanksgiving. First we take a family trip to the farmer’s market and pick out our Christmas tree. After carrying it home, we put on Christmas music and start singing. Then we begin decorating, starting with colorful Christmas lights. Then we slowly unpack all of our Christmas ornaments and while we put them on the tree, we reminisce about the memories each ornament makes us think of.

Every weekend after Thanksgiving is filled with more Christmas fun. On Saturday mornings, we like to get some morning snacks from the farmers’ market and eat them while walking through the holiday market near us. We love looking at all the cute trinkets and gifts each booth is selling and indulging in yummy holiday treats (the warm waffles with nutella and strawberries might be our favorite!) We look at all the vendors and ask Bodhi to put things he likes “on his list,” so before we leave, he can choose one thing to buy and play with. Last year a Hot Wheels car was popular! We also love to visit the big tree in Rockefeller Plaza, watch the light show at Saks Fifth Avenue, and look at the Christmas displays in all of the store windows. There is a large toy store nearby (FAO Schwarz), and it’s so fun and festive to explore a toy store with a child!

We spend Christmas Eve with Pit’s huge extended family in New Jersey. All of the kids run around and play all night long. We eat dinner together and then all of the kids open some presents. Then we spend Christmas Day at home with just our immediate family. There is something so cozy about being in your actual home on Christmas. We wake up in the morning and open presents after breakfast. The rest of the day is filled with lots of play! The next day we head to the Boston area to spend the rest of the week with Stacey’s family. We love how Christmas is filled with so much time with extended family.

Hobbies:
Friends joke with us that we are interested in too many things and have gained random skills while exploring these hobbies! We both have the type of personality in which we will hear about something new and immediately want to learn it. We plan to expose our children to as many activities as possible so that they can find what they are interested in. Whatever interest, skills, or talents your child may have will absolutely be encouraged.

Stacey says: Photography has become a hobby that has served me well. I love learning how to tinker with a camera’s settings to freeze a moment in time in the most beautiful way possible. Now I get to take amazing photos on our family vacations, and we have thousands of photos of Bodhi’s childhood that we look back on all the time. I also love crafting. I love to sew, knit, crochet, and cross-stitch. Baking has been a hobby for a long time. I find the process very soothing and especially love sharing the sweet treats with loved ones. Now I love cooking with Bodhi - it brings me such joy to be in the kitchen with him! He helps me cook regularly and has become an expert at making tortillas and dumplings.

Pit says: I’m a big sports fan, both playing (either myself or with the family when they would like to) and going to sporting events. I find it a great way to stay healthy and active while doing something fun. Additionally, I enjoy performing arts. While they are not skills I developed as a child, I have taken lessons as an adult to learn things like piano and musical improv. It’s been fun sharing bits of these hobbies with the family, like Stacey coming to my improv performance or weekend mornings playing piano with Bodhi.

Birthday Celebrations:
Bodhi’s birthday has become a special day in our family, and your child’s birthday will be as well! We know that our celebrations will change as children get older, but every year we have a tradition of sitting on our rooftop deck and eating birthday cake together - there is something so fun about diving into an entire cake!

In addition to that, we try to incorporate some of Bodhi’s favorite things into his birthday celebration. When he turned two, we rented an ice cream truck for our truck-obsessed child and invited our close family and friends to share a sweet treat and celebrate with him.

And now that Bodhi is older, we love coming to his classroom to celebrate his birthday with all of his friends!

Growing Up:
Stacey: I was born in a suburb of Chicago and lived with my parents, Young and Lisa, my older brother Nick, and my younger brother Tristan. We moved to a suburb of Philadelphia when I was 7 years old. As a child, I always loved using my imagination (my play kitchen set was my favorite!) or doing crafts. I’ve held on to both of these hobbies even now as an adult - baking and crafting are two of my favorite things to do in my spare time.

During my childhood, one of my favorite parts of the year was our annual ski trip. When Tristan was still a baby, my mom would stay home with him, and my dad would take Nick and me to Colorado to ski. It always felt so special to have that quality time with my dad, doing the thing that he loved the most. Every morning he would braid my hair (my mom taught him how just for these trips!), we would go to a restaurant for breakfast, and then my dad would drop us off at ski school. When he picked us up in the afternoon, we would always stop for a white chocolate chip cookie. The last day of our trip was always my favorite because we would skip ski school and spend the whole day skiing together as a family. Pit and I still go skiing and snowboarding every year and it’s one of our favorite parts about winter. Since my dad passed away, skiing makes me feel closest to him and I’m so thankful for all those years of skiing we had done together. I will always treasure these moments of my childhood, and we will make a great effort to create these memories for our children.

Pit: I was born and raised in northern New Jersey, along with my parents, Kishor and Pallavi, and my sister, Avani. When I was a child, I loved reading and being very active. I spent nearly every day playing a different sport with neighborhood friends or going to the library. Both of those activities became lifelong interests, as I still love doing both of those things to this day.

One of my favorite activities to do as a child was family trips to local amusement parks. We, along with cousins, would pile into station wagons and drive to Sesame Place, Six Flags, and any other local amusement park. We loved the roller coasters and the water rides, especially the lazy river, since everyone in the family (even the nonswimmers) could enjoy! These are some of the types of memories we hope to create with your child.