When Do You Tell Your Child He or She is Adopted?

Adoption.com Original Video | Adoptive Parent Voices

Denalee Chapman August 08, 2015

Once adoption takes place, the decision about when and how to tell your child about adoption may become important. Using open communication from the beginning, it becomes just natural and simply the way a child’s life is. When the children know, right from the beginning of adopted family life, there is no shock value and it is less likely there will be big issues in relation to adoption for the child. The adoptive parents’ attitude will bleed over into the attitude of the adopted child. When it’s talked about naturally in the home, there is a sense of pride and an absence of shame. For most adoptees and adoptive parents in a family where adoption is openly discussed, negative feelings about adoption are sparse.

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at DenaleeChapman.com.


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