Video: “When You Don’t Look Like Your Parents”

Adoptees and children from multiracial marriages describe their experiences.

Denalee Chapman April 19, 2016

How do children in transracial adoptions figure out how to identify with a race or a culture? When they’re very young, all that matters is that they’re loved. As the children get older, some have a hard time identifying with any culture. Sometimes this comes because of comments from others about how they look different, and sometimes it’s just what’s inside. But that’s the age-old question when it comes to transracial adoption: How do you help your child identify? And when the child is multiracial: Who do you help your child identify with? In this video, adoptees and children from multiracial marriages express their confusion over explaining who you are to your peers, and how to identify with a race. 

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Denalee Chapman

Denalee is an adoptive mother, a motivational speaker, a writer, and a lover of life. She and her husband have adventured through the hills and valleys of life to find that the highest highs and the lowest lows are equally fulfilling. Book Denalee to speak to your group, or find Denalee's writings, including her books on her website at

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