5 Adoption Quotes That Actually Capture the Realities of Open Adoption

Open adoption is complex - and beautiful.

Kristin Anderson February 16, 2018

Open adoption is one of those things that is rich and complex. Like any relationship, a successful open adoption requires sacrifice, humility, mutual commitment, patience, and compassion. There are losses and grief on all sides, and those can be raw at times. But through the challenges, love binds everyone together, expanding in a way that is breathtaking and life-giving.

And that’s why I love the following quotes about open adoption. I hope you enjoy them, too!

Love is exponential
1. Love is exponential

“I believe that love isn’t divisible, it’s exponential.” This quote from Mosswoodconnections.com refers to the relationships formed through open adoption. The child has an opportunity for relationships with both birth and adoptive mothers - and one doesn’t cancel out the other. If the whole birth family is involved in openness, there is even more love to go around.

Tragedy and privilege
2. Tragedy and privilege

“A child born to another woman calls me mom. The depth of the tragedy and the magnitude of the privilege are not lost on me.” This quote by Jody Landers has been circling the internet for a while and I consider it an “oldie but goodie.” I’d also like to expand on this that sometimes the word “privilege” can have connotations of entitlement. As adoptive parents, we certainly do not feel entitled to the baby, but rather honored to be placed in that sacred role.

Together we are motherhood
3. Together we are motherhood

“He is mine in a way he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way he will never be mine. Together we are motherhood.” This quote by Desha Wood speaks to the importance of both adoptive and birth mothers in the child’s life. As an adoptive mom, I greatly value my son’s birth mother for choosing life for him, giving birth, and choosing adoption. I didn’t do those things for him. I do things for him she couldn’t as well, like provide daily care, love and support. I’m his parent, but we’re both mothers.

I love those who gave her life.
4. I love those who gave her life.

“How can I possibly love my child- but not those who gave her life?” This quote from the Attempting Agape blog speaks to the appreciation of the birth family, much like the quote above. If you love your child, you won’t cut the birth family out of the picture just because you are jealous. There shouldn’t be jealousy.

A keeping of faith
5. A keeping of faith

“Adoption is not a breaking of trust but a keeping of faith…not the abandonment of a baby but an abandonment of self for a baby’s sake.” This quote by Curtis Young shows how much faith and trust a birth mother puts in the adoptive family she chooses. She also knows placing the child for adoption will be hard for her, but places that aside for the baby’s well-being.

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Kristin Anderson

Kristin Anderson is an adoptive mother who lives with her son, husband, and two crazy dogs. She loves open adoption and is always looking for ways to help in the adoption community. You can find her blog at Looking for Little One.


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