Xandra from European Union
Xandra was born in October 2007. She is a healthy teen with some developmental delays, particularly in the areas of social emotional skills and scholastic achievement. Xandra’s motor skills are on target, and she is independent with personal hygiene. Her attention and memory are relatively stable. Update September 2021: Xandra was abandoned by her mother at a young age and lived with extended family until 2019. The conditions were neglectful and Xandra experienced physical and emotional abuse. Due to bouts of anger, Xandra was examined by a psychiatrist and diagnosed with mixed disorder of conduct and emotions for which she takes medication as needed. The specialists who work with Xandra report that her emotional and mental health have improved and that she is overall more balanced and settled now. Prior to entering state care Xandra’s attendance at school was very sporadic. She has learned to read and write in the last two years and as a motivated student is closing the academic gap between herself and her peers, despite working in a new language. A respectful and obedient girl, Xandra gladly helps with all household tasks at the group home. She has many friends and likes to go for walks, listen to music or watch TV. Xandra is desperate to have a family and is deeply saddened by the fact that her biological relatives do not visit her. Other children taunt her about being unwanted and alone which causes feelings of anger, abandonment, and jealousy in Xandra. She has no hesitations about being adopted and having a forever family. August 2021: While we currently do not have any information about Xandra’s history and the circumstances under which she came into state care, we do know that Xandra’s native language is not the main language of her country. Therefore, as a new language learner, she experiences many challenges at school and is unable to master the age-appropriate curriculum. Xandra shows self-esteem and independence in inter-personal relationships, but many of her interactions are centered around manipulation and dominance, including jealousy, mistrust, aggression, and oppositional behavior. After exhibiting such conduct, Xandra does feel remorse and vows to do better. Xandra’s primary care physician believes she would benefit from speech therapy to improve her pronunciation, grammar, and overall language skills as well as counseling to support her in addressing the issues underlying her relationships with others. However, at this time, we do not know if Xandra has access to any indicated interventions. A family interested in adopting Xandra should have experience with developmental trauma and be prepared for long-term mental health, special education, and behavioral needs.